Has anyone managed to successfully organise a small wedding?!

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DP and I would like to get married and we do not want a big wedding. It's not us.

We briefly thought about eloping but we're both practising Catholics and its more important that we have a wedding Mass, not just a civil ceremony. We've also spoken to both sets of parents and they'd like to be there.

The problem is trying to sort out guests. DP would like his granny to be there, which is fine. My grandparents are all dead, but my godmother could come too... but then I feel bad that we're not inviting my other aunty, and then we'd need to invite Uncle and then blah blah blah.

Has anyone managed to do it without pissing off swathes of aunties and cousins?

I don't think you could organise a big wedding without pissing someone off, so Its probably unavoidable with a small one. I'd say just do what is right for you. We had a small wedding with a registry office ceremony of 20 and then about 60 to the evening... and it was on a Monday. I'm sure we will have pissed some people off but it was a lovely day and we were oblivious.

My brother did it by only inviting parents, siblings and siblings significant others. No aunties or uncles....and everyone was close to the venue. About 12 I total. It was lovely and he was just really clear with people that it was v small wedding.

I think the ideal would be us, 4 parents, 1 granny. I'm just such a people pleaser and I hate conflict.

We had 20 guests to a civil ceremony at the town hall followed by a very swanky do in beautiful restaurant (Michelin star chef ) and drink in a private bar with our own roof terrace over the city. It was stunning and surprisingly inexpensive because we only had 20 guests!!!

We’re having a small to medium wedding (50 guests) and I know DPs mum wanted us to invite some family members from her side that we’re not doing out of what she feels is obligation.

We’re keeping the invite list to people we’re close to so it’s not equal on both sides.
I’ve got parents, sibling, grandparent, aunty and uncle. DP just has parents and sibling.

He’s not seen any other family in years and I’ve never met them so he doesn’t want to invite them.
His mum was a bit pouty about it but he’s sticking to his guns on it and she has accepted it.
If they’re pissed off then they should have bothered with us at some point over the last decade it’s unlikely we’ll ever know.

I’d suggest justbinviting the ones you are especially close to so if you feel you’re inviting your aunty / godmother to balance out his grandmother being there then don’t, it doesn’t have to be equal numbers.
If she is a second mum to you where as your other aunty isn’t then don’t worry and just invite her alone.