This morning I had a call from ss informing me that ex sil has reported having thoughts about harming my DC. Ex had just been informed in the same way but I don't know if he had known anything about it before.
I haven't seen sil since ex and I split 5 years ago. The DC see her when ever ex takes them to his home town, so every six weeks or so. She is disabled due to MS and ex had told me this week he would be having the DC less than planned as she was in hospital. I had no idea she had mental health problems, but there's no reason I should I suppose.
The social worker told me sil has said she would never act on the feelings and that ex has said he'd never leave the DC with her.
I'm sure that" s true and that these intrusive thoughts don't make her a threat, but it's obviously a distressing phone call to get and I feel uneasy not knowing the full situation with sil. Ex and I don't really speak, he's a total twat but I feel like we should discuss this. My worry is that when sil recovers from this episode she seems to be having he may want to put it behind them and go back to normal. It's going to be in my head whenever he takes the DC to his home town.
An added complication is that I was going to have to email him about sil because she keeps going on about ds2 being skinny and it's really upsetting him. I've already emailed ex about it but he apparently told ds that he does need to eat more and it's none of my business. I guess there's no connection between that and whatever she is going through now, but it means I really can't see ex asking her to stop commenting as he won't want to upset her.
Any thoughts or advice would be great. I