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Would you go on hols whilst 5 mnths Pregnant?

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ChillUrBeans · 12/04/2019 13:03

I know technically it would be fine, only planning Greece or Spain type hols BUT DSD has just told us she is pregnant.

We were planning family holiday in August - we are stuck on dates as DS's GF can only get one specific week from work - and were meant to be paying and taking both DSD & BF, DS & GF and DSS. Dropped bombshell on us this week, although not really a surprise and hadn't booked hols yet.

I am worried about going now this year, DSD is 19, has been abroad with us several times so knows what to expect from hols BUT I am worried that actually the reality of what it means for her may end up ruining the hol for everyone including her. She is a bit entitled (we created it so can't moan) and has form for kicking off on hols in pas when tired and grumpy. She is used to 5 star which we had already said would not happen this year as the expense of paying for 2 extra adults to go AI.

I am worried that she isn't going to want to be sat by pool all day as she may be way to hot, she isn't going to be able to drink and will be pissed off that we can all drink - BF has never been abroad and never AI so I can see him drinking and that getting on her nerves.

I suggested last night to DH that we don't go this year now, we were going to go on our own next year so I suggested that we go on our own this year and take all of them and new baby next year (I said at least we an offer to babysit a coupe of nights so her and BF can go out still). As an alternative I suggested that we go with the others and offer to take DSD and BF away somewhere in this country or we could hire a cottage somewhere in this country and all still go but I would just cook for us all etc.

DH thinks I am being stupid and we should just carry on regardless, DSD still wants to go but she has never been pregnant before so does not get what her body is going to feel like in that heat and isn't really going to get it til she has been there.

I am worried that she may get ill etc and not just worried about her but about baby also.

Am I being a drama llama? Have any of you been and its been just what you needed to relax and enjoy but yo get really big or have any f you been and thought why did I do this?

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DameSylvieKrin · 12/04/2019 13:06

I wasn’t allowed to fly from 20 w onwards so be sure you get travel insurance and that it would cover pregnancy. Might be pricy though.
Otherwise, it’s would have loved a holiday.

jcq17 · 12/04/2019 13:08

I went at 21 weeks I was fine. Bored though cuz I couldn't drink lol.

needsleepzzz · 12/04/2019 13:19

Yep i did, went to the Seychelles, was fine, a bit nauseous on the flight/boat trip but no other issues. Was lovely and relaxing, i just walked a little slower than usual :-D

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ifoundmytribe · 12/04/2019 13:26

5 months ish is the easiest part of pregnancy imo, although I did run hot and I have to say that Greece in August doesn't sound pleasant even while not pregnant!

She sounds very difficult in general though.

Cwtches123 · 12/04/2019 13:30

It sounds like it's not the pregnancy that is the problem but the attitude of DSD!!!
I went away with DH at 20 weeks, we had a lovely relaxing holiday but it was a quiet resort, we went early season so the temperature was very comfortable. I couldn't have coped with August temperatures.

I think you are right to be concerned.

Jackshouse · 12/04/2019 13:30

I would, especially if some else is paying. I’m 24 weeks and would go tomorrow if I didn’t have a toddler. Pregnancy tiredness and a toddler are not working well together plus we have loads to do in the house in the next 13 weeks. I might have a quick google of holidays now...

I won’t go to Greece at 5 months pregnant in August though.

MrsPear · 12/04/2019 13:33

I went to Albania in August when 21 weeks with ds1 - they are neighbouring Greece - and it is bloody hot. Despite staying in at the hottest parts and going to the beach for breeze I still ended up with leg and feet swelling. As I had just seen by a midwife they confirmed that of course I could go holiday and treated me as a drama queen for asking!

eurochick · 12/04/2019 13:40

It should be fine but make sure she and you have decent travel insurance just in case. I travelled a fair bit for work when pregnant and went on holidays to the Maldives and South of France at 20-28 weeks. It was fine. I spent a lot of time in water to keep cool and felt my first baby flutters on a plane when we hit turbulence. I'm glad I went and enjoyed myself as complications were discovered at 28 weeks which meant I was grounded from then on.

AnotherRubberDuck · 12/04/2019 13:45

Share your concerns with DSD. If you've explained that she'll be uncomfortable and hot and left out of drinking (etc) and she still wants to go then it's her decision to make.

But I would go, it's her last holiday childfree!

I went to Spain (in May) at 8 months (by ferry & drive as I wasnt alowed to fly) and it was fine. Lovely in fact. I'm not much of a party animal though, so didnt feel like I was missing much. It was hot and I wasn't able to walk as much as I wanted to, but I still had a wonderful time.
It would've been fine at 5 months, that's the best part of the pregnancy!

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ChillUrBeans · 12/04/2019 14:07

Having the DC's we have always gone August time and always to Greece/Egypt and Turkey type places as DH loves the heat and sun - generally so do the DC's

She sounds very difficult in general though yes she can be a bit - but as I say, I helped create it so can't really moan about it and on the flip side - my mom passed away suddenly last year and we were all (DH, ME and just our DC's) meant to be going away 3 weeks after so had to cancel. She above all of them has been my absolute rock, she has been so ind and considerate over my Bday, Xmas and Mothers Day that I am quite willing to overlook mildly entitled behavior and genuinely just want the hol ruined fr everyone BUT her included.

Spoke to DS at lunch to see how he would feel if we moved to net year and he understands so will just have t sit down and explain my concerns and then as ppl say - let her make her own mind up but warn her of consequences if she is a cow - she may g for move if she gets it not a now or never situation.

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WalterIris · 12/04/2019 16:34

I would travel at that time, However an all-inclusive drink based holiday, in Greece, In August is probably not going to help with her if she isn't the cheeriest at the best of times.

I know you say you have to go in August, but do you have to go greece or turkey where its so hot?

Bombalarino · 12/04/2019 16:40

I went on a walking holiday! Although actually had a bit of SPD so just sat around, read some books and ate good food. It was lovely!

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ChillUrBeans · 15/04/2019 15:19

Thanks everyone, spoke to them all at weekend and explained to DSD and DH exactly what was concerning me about going and we have all agreed that its best to postpone holiday until next year.

That means we can babysit couple of nights for her and BF so they can still go out with DS & GF or on own if they want and help them with baby in day. DSS will be finished school and so will be cheaper than going in August so win win all round.

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