Feeding our babies

[zombee]

I just need a vent I suppose because I'm sick of seeing and hearing these horrible opinions.
For months from a specific girl I've been seeing her posts all over social media about "horrible cows milk with all sorts of shit in" (formula) being so much worse than breastfeeding and to not judge her for feeding her baby how she chooses. Yes she actually says not to judge her for how she chooses to feed her baby (she breastfeeds, apparently she's been getting snooty looks and things for this when out and about). I can't believe she doesn't see the irony.
Another mother I know was speaking about another mother who hadn't produced milk and so was formula feeding and she said she'd asked the mother why the baby wasn't breastfed, and from the sounds of it she asked quite harshly and full of judgement.
I see it all the time Mother's judging others for formula feeding and it's really pissing me off. Yes I can block the one who posts all over social media but I can't stop seeing my friends over this I feel.
I just needed a vent I suppose, especially considering I have some very real fears about when I try to breastfeed in a few months time due to sexual assaults and so it hurts me a little knowing I might be getting judged for something that I may have to do. Surely as long as the baby is fed it doesn't matter if it's from a breast or a bottle (yes I know the health benefits but I also know that most mothers will absolutely try breastfeeding before trying formula).
Anyone else feel this way?

100% agree, she's being naive and thoughtless to others situations. There's SO many reasons for choosing which way to feed a baby.

Saying this you sort of need a hard front of "yes thank you that's interesting" when you have a baby as you get SO much "advice" or opinions from people. Don't let the pressure get to you, do what's easiest and best for you and baby.

I find the first girls comment so disgusting because she's saying not to judge her feeding her baby how she chooses yet in the same line said that about formula!
If anyone asks or makes comments about whatever way I do end up feeding my baby I shall be ignoring or giving minimal response such as "she's fed isn't she" as I can't be bothered getting into the debate.
I considered posting on my social media something but i think that's more childish than what these other girls are doing and will just cause unnecessary stuff on my wall.
I just can't get over how these mothers, who I know struggled breastfeeding and almost switched themselves could be so judgemental!

I think it works both ways.

Some people will be unkind about formala feeding and others will be unkind about breastfeeding (I get a lot of “are you still feeding him?” “He doesn’t need it anymore” etc).

I think we are very lucky to live in a country with clean safe water and good formula safety standards.

Personally I try to avoid talking about breastfeeding or formula feeding in RL unless asked! Much easier than way.

@Camomila that's true it definitely works both ways! I try to stay out of it too in real life, such as when I was being told about the mother who can't produce milk I just listened and then changed the subject.
As long as baby is happy and isn't overweight I do try to not judge, and in my line of work I hear other people's opinion on baby's still having milk for nap time or morning feeds all the time so it can be hard.
I don't know how you don't get angry with the people asking you those questions though!

I have strong views on breastfeeding but the difference is not forcing my opinions on others when not asked.

I think that's the point @Palominoo everyone will always have an opinion on everything, and can feel very strongly about things, especially when these mothers were 18 when they gave birth and in the packs we receive we aren't even given anything on formula feeding, just a massive book on breastfeeding. But they need to recognise that just because it isn't what's constantly talked about and drummed into us that the alternative is wrong, or that they can belittle the ones who need to use the alternatives for whatever reason.
It's like the phrase "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" wasn't taught to these people!

I also agree about it going both ways. It’s such an emotive topic, and so I know I’m quite sensitive to ANY comments about how I’m feeding my child. I’m still breastfeeding my 16 month old and do feel quite defensive when people start giving me advice about weaning him off or things like “are you STILL feeding him”? “He doesn’t really need that anymore” “you’re a soft touch”! Grrrrr! It’s annoying because I genuinely don’t judge how other people feed their babies, they do what’s right for them and know what’s right for them for many different reasons. Do whatever’s right for you and your baby - only you can decide that it’s absolutely none of anyone else’s business!

@Millie2008 absolutely nobody else's business how someone feeds their baby and for how long they do this for! As long as mum and baby are happy and healthy don't see why anyone else is interested - and tbh even then the only that should be said is how they might need to talk to the health visitor or gp! I bet if I judged these same people for how they feed themselves they'd get annoyed so how dare they judge how someone feeds their baby!