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New troublemaker starting at work

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Bubba1234 · 11/04/2019 22:10

Hi all,
I got a bit of bad news today.
My bullies best friend is going to be starting where I work next week and I’m so disappointed.
Work was my sanctuary and now I will feel on edge. I’m an extremely private person and iv learned that keeping to myself and rising above my bully was tough but I did it and got away from the trouble.
To be fair to the friend she never did anything on me but she’s a fighter and would think nothing of fighting people when drunk etc and she is an attention seeker and loves drama.
I always avoided her in the past.
Now I feel my peaceful life has come to an end and I’m just praying she won’t last long. I’m not good at being fake my body and dignity won’t allow me il be very cool with her.
I get that she most likely hates me due to the bullies smear campaign which is fine I’m not annoyed about that it’s just I loved that there was no bitching or drama at work and now that’s going to change.
Has anyone been through anything similar?
I’m thinking of leaving but the problem is getting something else but il have a look online

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Amongstthetallgrass · 11/04/2019 22:14

She might be very different at work

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Bubba1234 · 11/04/2019 23:10

Yes il try to avoid the conversations where she name drops the bully.
I had to put up a lot of boundaries with regards blocking my bully and my family ( they love the bully) I asked them not to mention her or tell me what’s she’s saying about me and I avoid all the events she is at. This keeps my life peaceful.
Her best friend working with me could be a window for her to get to me but I will just brush her friend off if she starts mentioning my bully.
For me it’s all about protecting myself and avoiding upset.

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GunpowderGelatine · 11/04/2019 23:37

When were you bullied? In school? Was it long ago?

Itsyersel · 11/04/2019 23:39

Very strange and hard to follow post.

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Bubba1234 · 11/04/2019 23:54

Not in school no by a family friend

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Cherrysoup · 12/04/2019 00:36

I think I’d be looking for another job. Life is too short for this bollocks. Be cool and totally professional with her.

Rottencooking · 12/04/2019 01:18

@Itsyersel what part did you not get? sounds like your issue

OP. YANBU. Just ignore her and hope she doesn't start anything. Work is your sanctuary, don't let her change that. If she starts anything... Get it sorted before it turns into something bigger. Report her, do whatever.

Rottencooking · 12/04/2019 01:19

This isn't AIBU but OP YANBU either way

AssassinatedBeauty · 12/04/2019 01:26

Do you have to work with them directly or will they just be around that you might bump into them occasionally?

I'd just keep it absolutely about work and nothing else, polite but distant, and don't get into any conversations with her or about her.

FoxFoxSierra · 12/04/2019 03:36

Arrange drinks to welcome her to your team, let her get drunk and start fighting and sit back and watch her get fired

TheMaddHugger · 12/04/2019 04:33

Itsyersel Thu 11-Apr-19 23:39:57
Very strange and hard to follow post.

I am very dyslexic and I managed to read and comprehend the post just fine.

(((((Huge Hugs))))) OP 🌼🌸🌼🦋

slipperywhensparticus · 12/04/2019 04:38

If she mentions her just say oh we dont get along if she asks why say I dont know

I would look for another job if she is anything like the bully the rumours will start shortly after her

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