Do you and your partner ‘match’? - lighthearted, but I’m honestly interested

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I’m probably the least interested in clothes person ever, but I’ve just become aware that couples tend to match, to a certain extent, whereas me and my husband really really don’t.

We’re 47 and 51, and not fashionable, but my husband dresses quite nicely in casual things from fat face, or similar, and I look like a bag lady. I quite often wear pyjamas in the daytime, he never would.

Since realising that matching is a thing, i’ve been watching people out of the window, as my workroom looks out on the street. Opposite neighbours are always smart and coordinated, either in proper sportswear, or smart jeans and leather boots, or country attire for dog walking (although he has a flat cap, and she doesn’t). I suspect they’re extreme matchers, and probably discuss outfits. Their children don’t dress the same, but smartly fashionably, like the Beckham children.

Next door to them are very tall bealthy types, and they often seem to wear jeans, hiking boots, cagoul type things, and have back packs. Their children dress similarly. I presume this is more a lifestyle thing. The mum goes out to work and wears officey clothes, but all the other adults work from home or SAHM.

Next to us they are more relaxed, and wear jeans, trainers etc, but both similar to one another. The children are only little, but much the same.

So please tell me, is matching a thing? I’m so scruffy, and I don’t think my husbands noticed. Have other people? Is this another thing I should be worrying about? (I worry A LOT, and am very self conscious, probably since realising I was the only girl in our year still wearing knee socks at secondary school).

Depends on the situation. We dress casual when we're going somewhere casual, nicer if the situation demands, trainers if we cba. I guess we stick to the same level of smart-casual ness

He wears suits to work I wear floaty dresses or jeans. He wears T-shirts and jeans on a weekend and I wear the same or gym leggings

We both wear uniforms to work but we work opposite shifts so never at the same time. If we were going out together and we inadvertently matched one of us would probably change. I don't like when dd and I wear our leather jackets at the same time because it looks like we've deliberately matched 😁

Me and my kids all match to some extent in that we prefer casual sports wear/active wear and trainers most of the time, but they like bright colours where as I don't. My ex was a Twat and liked to dress up, was ultra anal about his beard etc.
I think people are more likely to match if they have similar interests to each other and so probably have happy relationships

We always kind of match actually yes. Especially in colour. We don't intend to but we'll often end up both in very similar colour combos.

DH tends towards sporty, and i'm a bit more glam, but people often say we look good together.

Me and my other half don't match at all!

I guess we stick to the same level of smart-casual ness

This ^^

But not in a planned sort of way!

Yes. My dh and I have similar taste. I’m a bit more fashionable but very unisex so we can be too similar at times. I’ve had to go upstairs and change when we’ve tried to both go out in jeans and a checked shirt for example.

Yes and no. We dress for occasions. We definitely go together but our outfits don’t match. He is stylish and I like my style.

I met DP after work this evening and we were both wearing black slim jeans and a grey jumper... so I think yes we do!

Our casual attire isn't matching, though. DP is a slogan t shirt, jeans and trainers kind of guy, where as my 'casual' is a little more dressed up in general. I think we only matched today because I was casual coming from home and he was coming from work!

No.
I wear dresses and smart shoes whilst dp wears jeans and a shirt.
We both wear casual walking gear if we are walking any distance but I tend to wear feminine clothes.
I matched more with my ex but that was because he was controlling and always commented on what I wore, always. He even bought me sportswear to match his, and insisted on buying almost identical running wear to mine.

No. DP is a scruffy bastard and I am normally ridiculously overdressed!

Yes I think we do “match” to a certain extent. We don’t wear coordinated outfits but we both dress very well, usually quite smart, classic well-fitting clothes in unfussy colours.

We match generally I think. One Christmas we bought each other the same jumper (male / female version). We don't wear it at the same time though - that would be tragic!

My husband wears blue jeans, a t shirt and trainers almost universally, unless we are going to an occasion requiring smarter dress.
I'm quite a mixed bag. I tend to wear jeans/leggings and t shirts/tunics. I imagine myself as a girly girl in pretty dresses but in reality it's just more practical to be more casual

DH is usually scruffier than me, but we matched when we met. We used to wear almost the same stuff. Jeans, hoodies, t-shirts, skate shoes... but I've got smarter (not much!) over the years and he wears the same but scruffier now.

Yes, we both prefer casual style clothes, no slogans, soft, easy to care, natural fabrics, not fussy about labels, leather footwear, discreet perfume. DD is the same. None of us would wear slim fit t-shirt with elastane. Colour wise we are very different

No not at all. OH is very casual, (scruffy), whereas I like to be much smarter. Our children are the same with one coming home from school as immaculate as they went in and the other as scruffy as they went in!

Generally, no, I don't think so.

I mean, if we were going to a wedding, we would both dress up, as almost everyone would for a wedding, and if we were going hiking, we'd both be wearing hiking clothes, so we match in terms of we will both 'dress for what we are doing', but I don't think we do generally, when there is no dress code.

My partner and I are both slobs. Stuck in the 90s (which are fashionable again yay) grunge era. I always made sure our kids were beautifully presented though. Sadly my eldest is also joining the realm of grunge slob and my partner loves the idea of twinning with the toddler 😳😆

Nope. I live in jeans and linen tops ( My work allows that) and DH wears bloody shorts all year round..uniformed for work and casual ones at home. With knackered old t shirts and in the house... crocs!!! shudder

It has to be minus degrees before he puts trousers on, whereas I'm always cold so we never ever match!

Yes I'd say we match. But it's not deliberate.
DS 1 & 2 both wear skinny black jeans, black or band t shirts and DMs like a uniform. DH lives in black combat trousers, tight black t shirts and DMs. I usually wear black skinny jeans, band ts or skinny black tops and DMs. We all have too long scruffy mad hair. We look like a bunch of anarchists on a family outings.

God no, we are both late 40's.
DH is still in Iron Maiden t shirts, skinny black jeans and Converse with long dreadlocks in a pony tail. He works in the entertainment business so wears this for work and casual.
I'm either in smart workwear (HCP) or totally non descriptive harem pants/ jeans and plain top which I may jazz up with a scarf or big necklace. Hair is totally boring layered bob.
DH is interesting to look at. I'm not

We're both incredibly scruffy, we mostly live in tracksuits, hoodies and tshirts as we work from home and do quite a bit of work outside. We share quite a bit of clothes mainly tshirts and hoodies, they're in one drawer and we pull whatever out. So we match in the fact that we're both scruffy in ill fitting holey shirts/hoodies

We have always been, and probably always be jeans and t-shirts type people. We have been like it for nearly 30 years so I doubt it will change.

I do wear a dress if we're going out, but he'll always opt for smart jeans and a nice shirt.