How do you instil good habits in the DC

[DaftQuery]

When you barely have any yourself?

Finishing things off.
Tidying and organising.
Ambition.
Good memory.
Resilience and not giving up on things.
Not procrastinating.

Tbh I think some of these are a case of "born not made" (particularly resilience and ambition) although you can improve things within a range.

You are your childrens role model if they see you exhibiting these behaviours it helps them to.

You have to keep at it with them. It’s sooooo exhausting raising and teaching kids. But I’m really really noticing as mine get older then things I put effort into, despite thinking they’d never do it without the million prompts, they now do naturally. The things I gave up on or was lazy about repeating over and over and putting time into, are still shit. So my kids don’t throw rubbish on the floor and put their used plates/cups in the sink but still eat like animals😳

Just lead by example.

Actually I think the most important thing is very simple. Stop doing things for them. Instead teach them to do things for themselves.

So instead of putting their shoes on, take the time to support them doing it themselves. When you see the cup they left on the floor, instead of picking it up call them to do it themselves.

Too many parents run around after their kids every whim. Doing all the things the child could in theory do themselves. Doesn’t exactly teach them to notice what needs doing around them.

I try not to help them too much or do things for them (even though it's easier to just do it)
I let them "help" from an early age (even when it stresses me out!) so encouraging independence.
And if they have a skill that is something I don't have I try to find some way to nurture it.
I try and change my own ways and lead by example (I don't always manage this).

I think I teach my DCs to live with strength, courage, perseverance, independence, and humour. I help them learn, and they help me smile. We try not to shout at each other and have some fun.

But honestly, I'm pretty relaxed now. I used to be very competitive and think we had to be the best, but we aren't and we don't have to be. We can be good enough. And we can enjoy ourselves. Which is pretty cool. I think balance is something I didn't learn at all as a child. And I think it's so healthy.