I recently traveled to my home country for a 20year school reunion. Bumped into an old school mate who I occasionally hung out with back then and who I had a bit of a crush on. We got on really well back then but I never made a move because I was very shy and had zero self confidence and he was really handsome and part of the „cool“ gang.
We really hit it off, got spectacularly drunk together and ended up having a fabulous song behind the bike sheds! It ended really abruptly because he had to escort his mate home and I had to dash off to catch an early morning flight home. Didn’t exchange numbers as there was literally no time at all.
A couple of days later I sent him an email (got the address off the organisers of the meet-up), telling him it was really nice to meet him again and that I had a fab time. I told him I had always had a bit on a crush on him and it was nice to finally see it through so to speak. Apologised for dashing off and for being practically legless. Told him I am back in my home country occasionally and that it would be nice to hang out again, or if not maybe I would see see him at our 30year reunion.
Had an email back a few hours later telling me it was nice that I got back in touch and that he had had a fab time too and not to worry as he had been really drunk too. Told me that loads of people had spotted us and they had been teasing him relentlessly (he’s still friends with a lot of them), but that it was well worth it. Finished by saying if the opportunity arose it would be nice to maybe hook up again at some point when I was back home and gave me his mobile number.
I emailed him back to say I was cringing a bit at being spotted but too late now and that I would WhatsApp him so he had my number too.
Followed up with a WhatsApp to say hi it’s Germknoedel. Had a thumbs up as a reply and the message to get in touch next time I was in the country. I only replied with a thumbs up.
Now, to be clear - I absolutely do not want a relationship with this man. He is super fit and such a laugh but I suspect he is a little bit of a player (nothing he said or did, just a feeling I get), I’m not looking for a relationship at the moment, just a bit of fun, and I have no intentions to ever move back to my home country. I won’t contact him again until I go back to visit and don’t expect to hear from him - he does know I’m not after a relationship, I told him as much when we met, I made it very clear that I was enjoying the single life for now, which is 100% true.
So from this brief summary would you think:
- he’s just being polite passing on his number, he doesn’t particularly want to hear from me and isn’t bothered
- he’s interested in a bit of casual sex and thinks I’m up for that too
- anything else
To be perfectly honest I can’t quite believe he’s after a shag with me - he is so fit he could bed girls 20 years younger I’m sure. I’m a divorced mother of two who has gone a bit soft around the edges, although I have definitely improved both my physical appearance in the past 20 years (diet and exercise, good makeup and clothes, etc.) and feel quite confident in my own skin now. I definitely wouldn’t mind a bit of casual sex though!!
What I don’t want is getting in touch next time I’m home for him to politely say thanks but no thanks - I don’t think my ego could take it! To even have had a snog with my super cool crush has been fabulous and I’m not sure whether I should just leave it at that and avoid the future disappointment of not being good enough. I’ve spent years building up a bit of self esteem, I don’t want it to get crushed again by appearing desperate if that makes sense. So - WWUD?