Is this normal for a 2yo?

[WitBeyondMeasure]

Can anybody relate with personal experience about two year olds?

She is our third kid and she is nothing like the older two, although to be fair they were also polar opposites to each other.

She has always been very short tempered. And when she is slightly aggrieved - for example she dropped her cereal on the floor - there is absolutely no sliding escalation. She goes from being perfectly fine to aggressively hysterical and red faced, irrational and screaming. Whenever something like this happens I try to crouch down next to her and put my hand on her back and say “don’t worry, we can pick them up” and start doing so, and then she’ll help pick them up... but it’s like it doesn’t occur to her that this isn’t the end of the world every single time.

She’s also dropped her nap (kill me now) so come her old nap time she is just insanely cross and agitated and the only way she will chill out is if I leave her in a room on her own (door open I’m not locking her up or anything) just chilling with the tv, but she won’t chill with anyone there and if anyone walks into the room it’s lose her shit time again...

Maybe I was super lucky with the first two. Ds1 was really mischievous but never a grump! Dd1 was so laid back she just didn’t care. Dd2 is like a temper tantrum dynamite ready to go off at any time for anything. I love this kid so much but I’m walking on egg shells! Is this the terrible twos? Although she’s been this angry forever... or is she just not of a sunny disposition?

Socially, when she’s in a good mood she’s very sociable. She runs up to other kids and instigates play, she waves at random kids and tries to talk to them when we’re out. Her language is at or beyond where it should be and physically she tries really hard to keep up with the older two and usually manages... I’m really just trying to work out whether this is ages and stages, personality or potentially something else?

(P.s. I'm sorry it the text comes out funny, I copied my post from a text I sent to a friend but had to edit it to remove names and swear words!)

Yep. DS1 was the easiest child imaginable, even the childminder said she'd never met such an easy going baby. he was the same all the way through childhood and through his teens. He's now at uni but living at home and is honestly a complete mystery. he could be in his room hacking into the pentagon or running an arms cartel and we would be none the wiser. He's a closed book. Doesn't give us any bother at all though...

I joke that one day i'll go to his room and it will be completely empty of everything including carpet and wallpaper and he'll have disappeared - he thinks it's funny - i'm only half joking...

disclaimer - i'm sure he is actually just shy/socially awkward which we are trying to work on and he's not really an international man of mystery.

I had this very conversation with my sister earlier about my nearly 2 year old. Nice to see she is in fact normal! But please tell me the end is in sight

@WaxOnFeckOff i can empathise in that I have a sibling who is very much the same. Will not open up despite all attempts.
But, I strongly agree the likelihood is less international man of mystery...I hope...? Do you think MI5 is watching this? 😱

@MushroomTree I've never had a child like her before but I do remember my other two at 2 and they are entirely different now at 5 and 3.
There is something at the end of the tunnel... my 3 year old was a dream at 2 and is now dramatic. My 5 year old was a nightmarish dare devil rule breaker and is now the sweetest, rule abiding child! It changes,'it never ends.

@WitBeyondMeasure change would be nice. Hopefully a change to slightly less random tantrum throwing, less near constant whinging and less spitting food out/chucking it on the floor if it doesn't meet her exacting standards.

Do you suspext some sensory integration issues? She’s very little, so it’s all no doubt standard, but my DD still has some sensory intolerances.