My husband says he can't tell me things because if he does I.e. That a dress I'm wearing looks nice, then I decide that I don't like it and stop wearing it.
Recently, I text him when he was at work and said I felt like I looked smart for a change as more often than not I'm in my scruffs (I was wearing my hair down, a bit of make up, jeans, vest top, jumper and boots). My husband has asked me not to tell him that I feel smart again because he says that I never look nice for him. Usually when we are together we are chilling on the sofa watching a film or I'm sorting the kids or cooking or whatever so I'm not dressed wonderfully but when we go out for dinner or on an odd weekend I try to look nice for him even if we are staying in.
I feel stifled. Am I being unreasonable thinking that he is out of order by telling me that I shouldn't tell him if I feel smart.
I know this sounds ridiculous but it's just another thing in a long list of things that upset him. He says he feels like I punish him. I'm so frustrated, no amount of explaining that if I decide I don't like a dress and he does, I'm not punishing him, I'm simply changing my mind. He just thinks that I'm out to upset him. 😩