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Relative moved in with my mother

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Cannothtinkofaname · 10/04/2019 09:22

I have also posted this on Legal board but more traffic on here.

A relative and her partner and 2 children have moved in with my elderly mother. They pay rent but there is nothing in writing or any contracts.

Does anyone know if something happened to my mother, if we could have problems if relative decided to stay.

They've been there about a 18 months.

Thanks.

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endofthelinefinally · 10/04/2019 09:28

I would think you need proper legal advice asap. There is so much potential for things to go wrong here. Are they caring for your mum? Could they be taking advantage of her? Does she have capacity?
Just a few of the questions that come to mind.

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Cannothtinkofaname · 10/04/2019 10:02

Endoftheline - no my mum is perfectly sound and healthy so no caring. I don't think they are taking advantage, as my mum is on the ball and would mention it to me.

I did wonder if I may have to seek legal help but my mum would just bury her head in the sand, anything to avoid unpleasantness!

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ParisWilton · 10/04/2019 10:04

Does she own her house or rent?

endofthelinefinally · 10/04/2019 10:07

Has she made a will?
What happens if she does need care at some point?
It would be better if she did have a legal agreement tbh. For her sake and the relatives.
There is a thread on here atm about a mother and daughter being thrown out of the home they have lived in all their lives. The grandmother, who owns the house, has gone into a care home and the house has to be sold to pay fees. The mother and daughter have no rights and will be homeless.
Informal arrangements are not reliable.

Singlenotsingle · 10/04/2019 10:40

Ok for DM rents, these people would have to take over the tenancy.
If she owns her own property, they would only be able to stay if dm had made provision for them in her Will - either by bequeathing it to them, or by giving them the right to remain for a certain length of time.

Singlenotsingle · 10/04/2019 10:41

If DM rents

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Cannothtinkofaname · 10/04/2019 11:06

Thanks for all the replies.

House is owned by my mother. That's the sort of thing I'm thinking - if it needs to be sold for her care.

I think I may have to take some legal advice, could be a minefield.

Thanks.

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Singlenotsingle · 10/04/2019 15:50

If the house needs to be sold for her care, then that can happen provided she has not given it away or sold it. The terms of the Will don't come into effect until the person dies. And yes, it would be good to get formal legal advice at this stage.
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Wallywobbles · 10/04/2019 15:59

You really need to take your mum with you though. As it's her property.

Troels · 10/04/2019 17:13

She could put the house in trust for you and your siblings to prevent them trying to take it.

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