NC for this. I'm at my wits end with dd2 who is 10.
She is bright, doing exceptionally well at school and is no trouble whatsoever there.
At home she's constantly whining, moaning, crying over every little thing and is horrible to her siblings and me, shouting at us all, hitting The others.
At her dad's she little miss perfect to the point dd1 who is 2 years older is fed up of the comments from dad's gf about how well behaved she is.
Today for example she's cried because I've told her to change out of dirty tights and put some different ones on. She claims the others don't fit but they do. She was wailing away like the world was about to end.
She lost her tablet back in October due to this constant whining over every little thing on the understanding that when she stops being horrible to get siblings and stops whining she can have it back.
I've asked her why she's behaving like this and I just get a shrug and don't know.
At dad's she barely sees him as he chooses to work rather than being there. She spends most of her time gaming. There is no gaming here as it negatively affects her behaviour resulting in meltdowns when she's told time is up.
We have plenty of time together, chat on the way to and from school, eat every meal be lunch together, spend time together in the evenings. She has plenty of positive attention.
What can I do to help her? We can't go on like this. SS were involved at one point due to their dad being abusive towards me and making malicious reports. They gave both dd some sessions to talk through their feelings which they hated and didn't find helpful. SS are not interested in getting involved again as see no role with the family. GP?