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How to raise this with the neighbours?

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Friedeggsandcustard · 09/04/2019 09:27

We are planning to build a single storey extension on our house. It’s very common around here and on one side our neighbours have already had one done. So not expecting trouble with planning permissions and on that side we have a good relationship and I don’t forsee any issues with our shared side access (we were accomodating when they had theirs done).

However on the otherside ( attached side of our semi) we have a more difficult relationship. It is fairly cordial but the elderly lady who lives their is very reclusive and her son can be difficult (alchoholic?) although he is always pleasant face to face. In 6 years I haven’t actually met her - we have gradually developed a kind of relationship through notes and the occasional phone call regarding access for maintenance etc.

She is in poor health but I don’t know any details. She is at least 80 more likely near 90. I am aware that any building work will cause noise and disruption. I therefore want to approach them before we go ahead and sound out their opinion. I don’t want to cause a major upset if for example waiting another year might change next doors circumstances IYSWIM?

I was going to send a letter ( her preferred means of communication) but have no idea what to write? Can anyone help me with the wording?

Thanks!

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Sn0tnose · 09/04/2019 10:45

What about something like 'Dear neighbours, we're thinking about an extension (identical to the neighbours at No 26) which we would anticipate taking around a month to complete. At this stage, we haven't made any firm plans so can't show you any plans, but we're very keen to minimise any disruption and maintain good neighbourly relations and so wanted to know if you had any immediate concerns etc that we could discuss before we go any further. Kind regards, Friedeggs.'

Friedeggsandcustard · 09/04/2019 11:46

thats great thank you!

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