Sex with ex

[k24m]

Hi all I'm 31 weeks pregnant with 2nd child and my partner father of my 2 left me at the start of my first trimester due to us arguing and not getting along very well.

The break up was really bad we couldn't talk only short and sweet when it was about our first child.

He's basically foolish around with woman meeting them and sleeping with them. He told me he loves me and still had feelings for me but I feel as if he was testing to see it I still had feelings for him and out of the blue we've stated to sleep together regularly and he's now saying he doesn't feel anything towards me anymore I think he knows he's got me under the thumb and I'm thinking he's starting to worry as I'm due baby almost soon and that will be time for me to do whatever I want as if it was a few months back he wouldn't come near me with a barge pole but so happens to now. I'm not sure if it's a controlling thing
I've said to him how would he feel if I was to do what he's doing sleeping around (NOT THAT I WOULD) he said it would bother him and it would hurt him but there's nothing he can do. He says he doesn't mind having sex with me but it's sex no feelings. A few times I have turned down the offer and tried to be like this is wrong kind of thing he would look at me all confused and wonder why I am not doing it and he'll often ask me what's wrong.
I love this bloke so much he's the father of my 2 kids and I would jump to the chance for it too work again but I know deep down that will never happen as he doesn't want a relationship saying I've hurt him etc but why does he want to have sex with me I don't understand.
My heads going ten to a dozen I'm confused and I just can't stop it for some reason I think I'm just trying to hang on to him as I don't want to loose him completely

He’s using you as a slip bucket.

Wake up and dump him as he doesn’t love you and is just using you.

^slop bucket

Don't sleep with him if he's sleeping with other people. You are putting your and your baby's health at risk. He's a twat.

Agree with above poster. If he's sleeping around with other women you need to protect yours and your baby's health. Are you using condoms? Also, you're letting him use you while you're pregnant and vulnerable. Sleeping with someone doesn't make them love you, in fact in this type of situation it can do the opposite as he can have sex whenever and not respect you.

He doesn't mind sleeping with you? Well aren't you a lucky, lucky woman.

He's a pig and you're risking your child's health by sleeping with him when he's sleeping around.

You sleep with a man who is likely riddled with disease whilst you are pregnant?

And he "doesn't mind" having sex with you.

You really need to start putting your children first and get rid of this loser once and for all.

You need a serious wake up call. Walk away.

He's sleeping with you because he's not a good man. He's happy to use the mother of his children for sex, knowing that you want a relationship he has no intention of having with you. And he will carry on doing this for as long as you allow it.

The only sensible thing you can do is to stop all contact unless it's to do with the children. Don't discuss what he's doing with other women, tell yourself it's none of your business. Keep conversation between you to what's happening with the children; don't let it get to the stage where he's asking you for sex. If he asks you what's wrong, tell him that you've accepted that he doesn't want to be with you anymore so the situation has to change. And, most importantly, get yourself checked out at your local clinic.