Scientology and parenting

[SquirrelBaby]

My parents were Scientologists. They fell out of favour and openly disagreed with the church for periods of my childhood, but always believed in the Tech. They also actively involved me as a child.

I’m now processing how this has affected me as a parent. In particular, Scientology treats children as if they are adults and also has an outlook of ‘no sympathy’. I wonder if I expect too much of my 3 year old because of my own upbringing. I also have a new baby. I think my expectations are more ‘normal’ for baby 2 and wonder if this is because I’ve worked on breaking down the Scientology ideas.

Anyone else experience this or something similar?

Scientology treats children appallingly, I'd say borderline abusive. It must be hard to parent in any kind of normal way after that. However, it's good you're breaking it down and trying; that's the main thing.
Do you have close contact with other parents (outside of Scientology), and if so, do your parenting methods differ wildly? If so, maybe you could get support from them, or from parenting groups?

Alternatively, can you get support on here? What expectations do you have for your three year old that you think might be too much?

A few examples I could think of that you might struggle with from a Scientology background but it might help for you to say what you think you're over expecting.

I think even parents from very good childhoods can struggle with expecting too much of an older child when a younger one comes along - they suddenly seem way more grown up than they are!

Have you done much reading? Maybe look for books on normal 3 year old behaviour and parenting, see if it lines up with what you are expecting them to do.
There are the What to expect books, they have then for one year old and two year olds.