DH is standing for council in next month’s local elections. I am also a party member, so had an email yesterday about helping out on polling day. I said to him that I would take a day off work to support him. At which point he says that's great and I can go with his mum and help her with telling at the polling station. MIL lives 3 hours away, so this means she is coming to stay for the week. And this is the first I know of it.
I am happy to help the local campaign but I do not want to spend my day ‘helping’ her. I am also irritated that DH failed to discuss with me before asking her to come down (or agreeing with her offer, he was vague about which it was).
There is previous history with her dropping a trip to visit us at the last minute, leaving me in the lurch for childcare for a family wedding. She is meant to be with us later in May as I am away for work then, so I am concerned she will do it again. Alternatively, she will decide unilaterally to stay for 3 weeks đŸ˜¬.
How do I tactfully tell DH to find different activities for both of us on polling day? He is VERY protective of his mum, does not understand why I find her hard work (she is not a bad person, we are just very different).
And to get him to understand that if he is having a conversation with her about coming to stay that he needs to run it by me first?