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Birthday party advice

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MummytoCSJH · 07/04/2019 17:20

Looking for some advice, what would you do in my position please?

I booked a venue and bouncy castle back in September last year for the 18th of next month, for my son's 5th birthday party. It's a Saturday. I did invites in Feb but was advised by other school mums it was way too early to give them out. On Friday we received an invite for a party on the day after, the 19th, so I panicked a bit as I was planning on giving ours out after the Easter half term (23rd April they go back to school) as I've been really busy with uni coursework and exams the past few weeks. I put a post on Facebook tagging some kids parents to make them aware and already about 7-8 have told me they can't make it, including 1 of my sons best friends. Some can't come because they work on a Saturday, sports competitions and other events already booked in, some don't want 2 parties in 1 weekend and as the other invites went out first they won't go to my son's.

I really dont know what to do - the venue can't do the Sunday before, and my son's birthday is during the week before the 18th so 2 weeks after would be way too late. I can't change venue as they are mostly booked up by now (hence why I booked so early) and the few that aren't don't allow bouncy castles which we definitely want. I can try to change the venue we already have to during the week, on his actual birthday, but again people will be working or not want a party on a school night, OR I can keep the original date and accept that some people won't come.

It is entirely my fault and I know my son will be gutted if certain kids can't come, but I need to make a decision and arrange it with venue and castle, so I can change the invites and send them out the first day after half term. Please help, it's his first proper party and he's so excited. I've made such a mess of it and I feel like a shit mum!

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mummmy2017 · 07/04/2019 17:22

Just bring it forward, so he has an early party

MummytoCSJH · 07/04/2019 17:24

So that it's during the week? I think its looking like my best option right now. I would have done the Sunday before but as I mentioned the venue can't do it which I'm gutted about, they can't do any time that day.

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Mildpanic · 07/04/2019 17:29

Can you put out some more invites. My dd’s 5th was the week before Christmas and most of her class were busy, I hastily invited the other class and we had 25 kids in the end. Most of her friends couldnt come but she was so excited about it being her party it didn’t matter. She still talks about it being “my amazing party” They are too young to be overly bothered about who is there or not ime.

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RedSkyLastNight · 07/04/2019 17:35

Stick to your guns and just invite other people if your first choice invitees can't come. Tbh its very early to be sending out invites at this stage, and unless you happen to have inadvertantly picked the same date as some major sports competition (for 5 year olds !!!) the excuses sound like people don't want to come or are hedging their bets because they dont want to commit so far in advance. I have never, for example known anyone to say they wouldn't go to a party on Saturday because of another on Sunday. In fact I seem to remember one year when DD had her party on the same day as 2 other children and quite a few guests went from party to party.

The alternative would be to have a much smaller midweek party.

MummytoCSJH · 07/04/2019 17:36

Thanks - I am already inviting both reception classes which is 60 children, all of the ones who can't come are in my son's class rather than the other. We have some family and friends coming too. My main worry is that if more people can't come, when I do send out the official invites, anyone who has got an invite and can come might get confused if I do end up changing the date.

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RedSkyLastNight · 07/04/2019 17:41

So you are inviting 60 children from school plus family and friends? Then nothing to worry about! If you really want to boost numbers then suggest siblings can come too. Tbh these large "invite everyone"type parties are the ones that people tend to decline,as they know there will be lots of guests regardless.

MummytoCSJH · 07/04/2019 17:45

Thanks RedSky. Yes that's what I thought, it's already a lot of people, though it is quite a big hall that we have hired and I do want to at least try to fill it. The invites already say siblings are welcome as I'm doing food etc myself so can arrange for that. The sports comp is gymnastics and is only one child, in fairness Grin

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cariadlet · 07/04/2019 17:53

If you haven't changed the date yet then I wouldn't worry about 2 weeks after your ds's birthday and that making it too late.

My dd's birthday is in September. One year she wanted a swimming party but I forgot to book it before we went away in the summer.

We ended up having a family day out on the birthday weekend and she had to wait about a month for the actual party!

She was happy because we'd done something special for her birthday and she still had something to look forward to.

I've got a friend whose ds has a Christmas birthday. She always does his party in June or July because his friends are busy doing family stuff over the Christmas holidays.

lablablab · 07/04/2019 18:11

Wow, 60 kids invited and siblings welcome too?! Shock I think you need to embrace those 'no' replies with open arms! That's a lot of children!

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