Husband left after 15 yrs.... Devastated

[Wlease]

My husband of 15 yrs walked out 5 weeks ago. We have two boys 12 and 14 eldest has Autism and is struggling they both are. I'm so up and down just don't know how I will cope. Any advice thanks

The man you knew and loved has gone.

You will see a completely different side to him now.

Do what is best for you and your boys.

You have no need to have any loyalty to him anymore and as such if revealing his affair with a married colleague is in anyway beneficial to your circumstance then do so.

Your H is no longer who you thought he was, although I suspect he was always selfish and self centred.

Sadly it is common for selfish men who go into overdrive when they hit mid life and decide it will be all about them.

Write down what he is doing, it helps to remind you what a bastard he has become. I found this helpful as during recovery I would put on my rose tinted glasses and only think of the good times.

Can you get back to your family? Life maybe easier to rebuild of you are away from him and close to family support.

You will recover and rebuild..it doesn't feel like it but take 1 month for every year. At first you will cry every day but slowly that changes and you will have happy days. By that stage your selfish husband will have realised what he has lost but of he is arrogant he will never admit to making a mistake.