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Anyone else find it really inconvenient when DP goes out put?

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Spaceunicorn6789 · 07/04/2019 10:29

In THEORY, I don't mind him going out. It's only two or three times a year and we don't have any kids so of course, he can go out as he wishes. It's great to have the TV and bed to myself.

However, it's soooo inconvenient. Comes crashing in at 3am so now everyone (me and the dogs are awake). Since the dogs are awake, they need out for a quick wee and he is in no state to put their leads on etc. Fine. Then he wants me to sit with him whilst he eats his manky kebab. Okay, still fine. Quite drunk and annoying but cheerful. Finally go to bed. Then he will not STFU. Telling me all about who he's seen and what music was played and that he bumped into my ex and he loves me soooo much and he wants us to be together forever and he's definitely going to propose this year Hmm and his ears are ringing and can I hear the ringing and he wishes he hadn't drank so much, didn't mean to get so drink oh did I tell you I saw your ex boyfriend, he really wants some Irn Bru etc etc ubtil 5.15am despite me saying please be quiet and go to sleep now. Shut up. Stop talking you drunken buffoon.

Anyway, I've gotten up despite only 4.5 hour sleep because if I sleep any longer I won't sleep tonight and that will muck up my whole week and I've got loads on at work this week.

Im Very tired, have a headache and am grumpy. He won't be in any humour to do anything today when he eventually surfaces so ill spend the whole day desperately trying not to have a nap, inevitably end up having one at about 5pm and then won't fall asleep until after midnight and then will be tired all day tomorrow as well.

Plus I will have to go and do the food shop by myself and the bedroom stinks of alcohol and kebab.

Okay okay I'm just having a winge but please indulge me Grin

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StealthPolarBear · 07/04/2019 10:32

Yanbu :) do the dogs sleep upstairs with you? Any chance he could sleep on the sofa and not disturb you all? Even when drunk he should accept that you need your sleep.
Or, if you have no dc why not go too?

SavageBeauty73 · 07/04/2019 10:35

Spare room or sofa. Ignore him.

ziggiestardust · 07/04/2019 10:37

YANBU. DH was out with friends last night and forgot to take a bloody key... he texted me and asked me to leave one under the wheely bin to which I said no (nice enough area but crime on the rise) so I had to wait up. Which again... I don’t really mind but it’s just kind of thoughtless. Didn’t get to sleep until 2am and we’re out in Greenwich today meeting family.

Ugh I sound like a right whinger too... I don’t mind, but he just always makes it more difficult than necessary... not taking a key, missing the last train home, loads of drunk chat while I’m trying to sleep, or even worse; he’s all over me cuddling me like a drunken octopus. He once fell asleep on my face Angry

Spaceunicorn6789 · 07/04/2019 10:42

loads of drunk chat while I’m trying to sleep, or even worse; he’s all over me cuddling me like a drunken octopus. He once fell asleep on my face angry

Grin Grin Grin Yes!!!!! Do we have the same DP?!?! I feel like a moaner as well because I certainly don't begrudge him the night out but it just messes up the whole weekend!!

Unfortunately we live in a teeny teeny one bedroom flat so no spare room and he did fake offer to sleep on the sofa but then he had to come in for his pyjamas and the spare duvet and that was a summer duvet and it's still quite cold this far north and the bed just looked sooo comfy so eventually I was like get in bed and shush. He did not shush!!!!!

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Newmumma83 · 07/04/2019 10:49

Thank god it’s only 2-3 times a year. Get another thick duvet for next time!! 😂😂

My oh used to chat to me every morning at 4am as he got up for work then when we first living together ... telling him politely not to never worked ... I literally had to loose my rag with him massively and used language I am not terribly proud off ( I was shattered as I had work too and did all household chores and cooking to support his work schedule whilst working full time myself not to mention i couldn’t get back to sleep after half an hour of his chat ) he got the point after that.

Hasn’t done it since .. that was 10 years ago ... I am not suggesting bad language but perhaps stern words are needed to ingrain that he can’t do this to you anymore.

P.s I did chuckle about the partner falling asleep on your head 😂😂 bet he was massively in the dog house 🏠

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