Sick of being criticised by my own family

[Firsttimemummy19]

DH says I shouldn't take it to heart but I'm sick to death of my parents, grandparents, cousins etc criticising my parenting style.
My baby is only a few weeks old and I'm constantly being asked if I've given him a dummy yet, if he's on formula yet, in his own bed yet, why don't I leave him to cry instead of soothing him etc.

Every professional I speak to tells me I'm doing a fab job but my family have completely different views and it really gets to me and upsets me. I'd love to turn round and tell them I wouldn't take parenting advice off any of them for various reasons (smoking whilst pregnant, neglect etc) but I don't to save arguments.

I get more compliments off total strangers than I do my own family. A couple of people have even gone out their way to tell me 'well done' for BF! It's been lovely.

Does anyone have a bullet point poster I can send them or any links to show I'm doing things in the best interest of the baby? Or just general advice on how to deal with negative comments?

Just ask them if they followed guidelines when their kids were little. If they say yes, then just tell them that you're doing the same.
Otherwise just tell them that they are upsetting you by questioning your decisions all the time and ask them to stop. If that doesn't work I would question if these were people I would want to be around

It can be hard when you choose to parent differently to your family, are they taking your choices as criticism of how they parented?

Have confidence in your choices and try to ignore, if this proves difficult limit the time in their company accordingly.

"Thank you, I'm sure when you had me/your baby/babies you were inundate with asvuce but still did things your own way. Well, I'm the same."

I expect though I will be dishing out my pearls of wisdom to my children when I become a grandparent.

I've limited time with them as much as I can, I'd like to limit it more but it would cause problems and even more hassle.

I do have confidence in my parenting choices but i just wish they'd see my choices are good ones and not to make life easier!