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Suitable present for ds’s friend’s parents?

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BertrandRussell · 06/04/2019 10:09

Ds’s best friend lives 5 minutes from school-we live in the back of beyond. Ds obviously spends a lot of time at their house- at least a night a week, sometimes two. They have plenty of space, and I constantly check with ds that it’s OK. Friend is an only child, and the only time I have spoken to his mother - at a parent’s evening- she said how happy she was that he had found such a good friend. But I do feel uncomfortable about not reciprocating. I have bought some gig tickets for the two of them, and they have both crashed at dd’s flat in London a couple of times, but it still feels a bit uneven against ds having a second home! (They call one of their spare rooms “DS’s Room”)
What would you do? Some wine? Just carry on paying for stuff when I get the chance? I don’t know the parents at all, so can’t do anything more personal.

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mummmy2017 · 06/04/2019 10:13

Could you take their child away for a weekend, center park? That way their son can have fun, and they have a free week end

BertrandRussell · 06/04/2019 10:16

Sorry-should have said. They are 18-6th formers. So “babysitting” not required!

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breadzeb · 06/04/2019 10:17

How old are they?

When mine were young I always felt like I needed to even out the having friends over.

Teenagers? Let them crack on.

You say you feel uncomfortable about not reciprocating, why do you not?

breadzeb · 06/04/2019 10:18

Oh god at that age just leave them to it. Concern for other parents not needed at all. They are not looking after your DC.

breadzeb · 06/04/2019 10:19

I don't have teens round to my house. I'm autistic and so are 2 of my DC, so we do t cope well with having people in, and haven't really got enough space (DC's share rooms)

MyKingdomForBrie · 06/04/2019 10:21

Nope that is old enough to leave them to it!

BertrandRussell · 06/04/2019 10:21

“You say you feel uncomfortable about not reciprocating, why do you not?”

Happy to. He comes over sometimes- but we live 20 miles from school, so we are a “destination” rather than a convenience if you see what I mean!

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Usuallyinthemiddle · 06/04/2019 10:22

Could you send him with a food parcel of the snacks they are likely to be raiding? (I mean like a weeks worth, not a vouple of tubes of Pringles) or pre-load a JustEat account with some money so the takeaways are covered?
I'd feel the same, Bertrand.

BertrandRussell · 06/04/2019 10:24

I did send a massive box of shamrock biscuits on St Patrick’s Day!

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nakedscientist · 06/04/2019 12:48

Oooooh Shamrock biccies, where are they from? I want some!

BertrandRussell · 06/04/2019 13:21

Sorry- I made the shamrock biscuits. Sad I can give you a recipe if you like.....

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