MIL just rang to ask DH why he didn’t buy a birthday present for his sister...

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...but he’s never bought her one ever!

I’ve always done it but because she hasn’t reciprocated or thanked us for several years, I just didn’t bother this year.

So DH is in trouble! He’s in his late 40s 🤣

When I married my Dh, one of my SIL sat me down and gave me a list of all the family birthdays. Well when I say “ family “, I mean DHs siblings and their children. None of the husbands or wives were on the list. Even the ones who had been married for 20 years at that time.

I smiled politely and told her I’d give it to DH. Because I was naive and foolish. Now I’m older and wiser I’d look confused and ask her why, with a head tilt of course.

My MIL gave me a list of DH's family's birthdays. I stuck it on the notice board and forgot about it.

Mil and fil gave me a calendar with all the famly's birthdays marked on it. Think it fell in the bin. 🤔

This followed on from the birthday list that they attempted to give me. I suggsted they gave it to dh. Dh lost it.

Good for you! 👏

I stopped sending birthday cards to BIL and SIL a few years ago much to their disgust (although until this year continued with nephews). We have never had one, or a thank you.

Following this Christmas, when said family refused to see us despite travelling more than 100 miles as they were 'too busy' (not seen them in more than a year, always the same excuse.... not convenient for them), i told DH that this year, we are not even sending a card. For once he agreed! And so did FIL (who i told that his precious first born had no manners! Sooo satisfying).

Never do we get a thank you or acknowledgement and haven't had so much as a card in years (in fact last one was about 7 years ago when we turned up over Christmas unexpectedly and got a chocolate orange each and an unadressed generic card.... each, clearly from the 'if someone unexpected turns up' pile).

Too many people in this world thinks the world revolves around them. Tell the MIL that you have decided to go the same way as SIL and not 'do' birthdays at their age 😁