What do I do? Ex issues.

[Messedupmomma]

Hi all first time posting.
So I split up with my daughters father 3 years ago, due to him cheating, I moved back with daughter to the uk.
Well I moved on, but am now pregnant with new partner (not planned) he now needs to move due to his job, wants us to go with him, but my ex has a court order in place to prevent my daughter moving out of the uk (although he lives in Australia but is a uk citizen and had PR) now his reasons were valid for not moving which is why the court granted it, I can appeal, but that will take up to a year. Now I need to talk to my current partner about it, I know he will be mad, but I wont just give up my daughter to my ex when I know he is doing this out of spite.
Shall I end my relationship now and focus on co parenting with my current partner or just see how we go. I am so stressed that I'm not even focused on my relationship at the moment as I've been so focused on my court hearings / dealing with my solicitor about other issues with my ex.
I'm just so conflicted, but no matter what my children must come first.

I very much appreciate all the honest posts on here. I feel like you have all given me the extra boost I needed.
Deep down I have known I won't be moving to the states and that although there is more to it with my ex, I was never going to uproot our daughter again, my life is here in the UK and to be honest I don't think I am 100% invested in this current relationship and yes I realise how stupid it is to be pregnant by someone else and that only I have put me in this current situation. However I know I can manage raising two children alone, I'm not scared of being alone. I just needed some raw, honest opinions.

I have just spoke to my boyfriend and said that I will see him tomorrow as we need to have a chat.

And no I'm not easily swayed, this is the time to do it, and for us to figure out a way to co parent our child.

Thank you guys again.

Well done, OP

Glad you have decided. The risk of moving is very high and I doubt a court would enable it.

If he is the right man he will stay here.

You mentioned that your daughter "has a medical condition that requires treatment". That's another good reason not to go to the USA: medical treatment is expensive there. Whose insurance would she be on? And how would you get a visa? I think you have to be married to get a visa as the dependent of someone with a working visa.

Second librarymiss
A friend had an excellent thriving business in Florida but had to sell up to come back to the uk after a stay in hospital meant they couldn’t get insurance

Well I spoke to him, he took it badly ( as expected) he is pretty mad at me, but I said that I won't leave my daughter or send her to her dad's. I've told him to just think about things and that I am more than capable of looking after 2 children by myself. He said he doesn't think its fair I can't move, but I said it isn't fair to my daughter to move. He asked if I was breaking up with him and I said that although it wasn't what I planned, that I feel we would be able to be great co parents.
I'm going to see him this afternoon, but I am going to stand firm on the fact that I think its best we work together now and do what's best for our child.

Wow, mad at you! That is pretty telling. A very good sign of a toxic person is to see their reaction when you say No to them.

He can be disappointed and sad but if he shows no empathy for your daughter or you then that is a massive warning. It really is all about him .