Should I worry about Dd or not?

[stayathomegardener]

Can't face AIBU and only musing anyway.
Dd is 19 and at Uni, she has had work experience on the Isle of Skye this week, driving round in a truck with a pop up roof tent and camping.

Normally we all chat away on a family WhatsApp group but she went off radar for about 7 hours unexpectedly.

DH and her boyfriend were both concerned plus the weather hadn't been great which made me panic.
Eventually made contact and all good, she was out doing a sunset photoshoot.

Part of me thinks she's almost 20, very sensible and quite frankly could be on a crazy gap year.

Then again she's on her own, in testing conditions in remote locations and does struggle as has cfs.

Would you worry?
One minute I think "kids" are wrapped in cotton wool nowadays and then a friend will say I wouldn't let mine do that.

Just interested.

There is a long way between worry and not letting an adult do something. Worry never ever stops, control does!

Interestingly the more I worry about something the more I encourage her to do it. Can't have parental neurosis getting in the way
Despite being fine initially I had a real what the hell have I facilitated for a few hours yesterday and friends are equally horrified.

I think my perspective is skewed now.

Yes you'd worry; that's only natural. But isn't it our job to bring them up then let them spread their wings? You wouldn't be able to stop her anyway!

I have a 19 year old DD at uni and I know exactly how you feel. I panic if she doesn't answer my messages after a few hours and just have to try and control my worry. She's home now for Easter and now I'm having to contend with her being out all night and trying not to worry about that! I know I'll never stop worrying and MrsTP is spot on!

My Dd is not old enough to travel alone yet but im sure i will worry like crazy when she does. I think we have got used to having contact at all times whereas our own parents would not have had that luxury. I'm sure they worried just as much when i went into London on my own for example but in days before mobiles they would have had to wait all day to know i was ok. I know it might sound a bit obvious but there are probably remote areas with no mobile/internet connections, so all is probably completely fine. We went to Cornwall a few years ago and where we stayed had no connection for probably a few mile radius.

@HildegardCrowe the strangest thing is I don't worry about her at Uni. It's almost like out of sight out of mind.

I think she has needed a lot of support this week with various issues, spanner light coming up in her truck, cooking gas leaking etc that it's put me on high alert.

Dd was most amused when relocated. "Mum I could have been having a sleep " 🙄 at least we are both laughing about it.

Absolutely rate @MrsTerryPratchett analysis.

It's tough being a grown up parent.