Hi
After chatting with dp today he was saying he was struggling with symptoms he was getting
He then added, and I’ve not been able to grieve for my dad!
I said what do you mean?
He then replied, well I don’t even know where his ashes are I can’t even go to somewhere (like you, your mums grave) it hurts so much
He was my best friend
But back story
His dad remarried, none of the 3 children liked her from the start. They were all in there 20’s by then and left home. They just that she had a mission and got what she wanted.
They’ve all tolerated her for there dad.
She a very cold woman, very matter of fact. A lot of animosity about how she treated his dad.
Anyway, since the funeral last year
There’s been no contact, as thought
Anyway
What I wanted was your views on
Do you think I would be out of order
Asking her if she hadn’t already done anything with the ashes would she be prepared to give us some
Obviously I’d need some guidance on how to write this(help please)
Am I wrong and out of order??
Partner doesn’t know, he hates her for how she looked after his dad /funeral near the end of life