I've run out.

[FromDespairToHere]

I'm 43. I've suffered with depression off and on for almost 30 years. I've been down recently, am back on ADs and have levelled out. Am trying to get a referral for an ASD assessment. There has just been a reorganisation at work and I didn't get the position I was hoping for. I'm hopelessly in debt and I don't sleep properly. My house is a shit pit.

DD is 19, has been on ADs for 3 years. She's diagnosed with ASD. She's starry-eyed about her first relationship but is convinced she's not good enough for him, he'll get bored etc. She's got terrible anxiety about her upcoming a levels and has no idea what she wants to do next.

DP has chronic and constant health problems but tbh is the least of my problems atm.

I'm just exhausted rn and I want to crawl into my bed and stay there forever. I don't know what I'm writing this for, I just needed to vent.

Hi OP, I'm really sorry you're going through this. I didn't want your post to go unanswered.

I'm in my twenties and have no DC. However, I suffer with horrible and full-on depression and anxiety. I've posted on here before about my mental health under different names and always received some good advice. Maybe try posting in the Mental Health section to see if you get more responses?

I work in a pretty crappy job, have applied for other roles but no joy yet which I definitely think adds to the feelings of hopelessness and not wanting to get out of bed. You've mentioned you are on ADs, have you spoken to your GP about the way you're feeling or your change in mood? I know that people say that all the time but it may be something as simple as changing medication, what worked before may not work now and you may find something else is more effective.

For your daughter, perhaps try contacting her college/sixth form to ask about a Personal Learning Plan. Not sure if that's what it's called everywhere but I got through my A Levels by the skin of my teeth with some support from Sixth Form. They assign somebody to help you make the most of your time and figure out what works for you in terms of revising etc. Extensions can also be made, and there are usually options to resit. She would qualify for this on a medical basis. Nobody has any idea what they want to do after A Levels. I went to University however don't have a job related to my studies sadly. I still don't know what I want to do so some reassurance that that's "normal" might go a long way.

It's tiring dealing with other people's health problems when you have your own. Have you taken any time off work? I recently had 2 weeks off and could have had a little longer but it did help. Just some time to get to the doctors, get some sleep and not worry about work.

I really hope things begin to look up for you and your family. I'm sorry you're going through it, I know how exhausting it can be both physically and mentally.

Hi OP,

Don't want to push you to reply so don't worry! Just wanted to let you know I've been thinking of you, hope you have had some sleep and hopefully you'll be off work for the weekend (if you aren't already). Take care x

Hi thanks. I am off this weekend. DD has decided that her BF has gone off her because he's not messaging her constantly.