BIL is late 20s, lives overseas (as do all DH's family). He's vaguely qualified to work in a particular industry but has been dismissed from a number of jobs in the past. He's decided to come and 'try his hand' in the UK (dual nationality).
He's 'told' us he's coming over but I have had to chase for dates, plans etc. We have a decent sized house but are currently reonovating. Only 2 bedrooms are habitable at the moment. No other spare rooms. Our 2 primary-age DC share a bedroom.
DH self-employed, so am I. DH has been ill since end of last summer, has hardly worked. We're currently working our way out of major financial difficulties. I work 60+ hours p/w.
BIL is very opinionated about politics, people from other backgrounds etc. Heavy smoker and drinker.
Thing is, DH's family were very good to me when we met (I was travelling in their country). I was however very self-sufficient, much younger, and (I hope!) a good house-guest.
BIL is a nice guy - good for a few beers, chats about old times etc. I just don't feel like I have the energy or inclination to accommodate him, or even to set any boundaries (family will be quick to remind me how they put me up all those years ago). I know he'll hang around until I 'help' him to sort a job out. DH is too unwell to do this at the moment. DH's family always say 'Heartlake is amazing at organising stuff'. I don't want to have to set boundaries. I just want DH to get well, for us to get out of financial difficulty, and to enjoy our own home and time with the DCs (preferably without working around the clock).
Any ideas? Or a handhold?!