SAHMs - what do you do if you’re ill?

[BlossomLeaf]

First time I’ve been really ill since becoming a mum. Some sort of flu - delirious and burning hot for a couple of days, vomiting and diarrhoea, coughing and difficulty breathing. Still looking after a toddler all day and handling all night wakings. It’s been hell on earth. What do you do if you’re too ill to cope with DC?

Your DH is being a shit, he really thinks you are faking it? Work is one thing not everyone can easily / afford to take time off, but not cancelling a social thing or taking over night duty that would have me questioning the whole relationship tbh.
Ask him to cancel his arrangements and come home to parent his own child, if he refuses you need a plan.
Do you have anyone else who can come to you to help or to take your toddler for some time?
If not, do you have access to some money? Throw a few essentials for yourself and some medication into a bag. Book a taxi and a cheap hotel room, tip the taxi driver to help you with car seat etc for your toddler. Drive to your husbands game, hand over your child tell him he’ll have to sort something out. Get back in the taxi and go to the hotel. Text your H to say when you’ll be back, next morning or longer if you need it, then switch your phone off. Take your medications, sleep peacefully and uninterrupted with a handy en-suite.
When you are feeling up to it have a proper conversation with your H about how this parenting lark is a team effort.
I would also cultivate mum friends that can help each other out in these situations you may need their support as a single parent if you kick your H out if he doesn’t shape up

Being bed bound ill with small child was horrific. One day bedroom door shut, toys on floor and basic food all in room.
Thankfully we have TV in room and it was just a case of trying to stay awake to keep an eye... toddler.

I told DH if he left me again that ill I couldn't be held responsible for DD safety. .
It was just so awful.

There's no way I'd tolerate being left all day and then all night with dependable child whilst he did hobbies

I had to get my DH to come home from work, (fortunately he has quite a lot of flexibility) when I was recently ill with a vomiting bug and had both kids (1 and 3) at home. Eldest couldn’t even go to nursery because he’d had the same bug the day before.

That is the only time he’s had to take time off work for me. I struggled through for the morning, but by about 11am I was losing the will to live and called him. I guess if he’d said no or I knew it was going to be a really big deal for him then I’d have battled on. Kids literally watched tv and ate biscuits and bananas all morning as that’s all I could manage to give them

And there’s no way he’d be doing anything social after work