I think my ex saw me kiss someone else?

[Amariannf]

Back story:
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. We have a 3 year old together. He told me he wasn't in love with me anymore and he started talking to another girl about a week after the break up. Not entirely sure if it was just friendly or not but it still hurt.

Anyway I was out for a friends birthday and her boyfriend is one of my ex's best friends, anyway we ended up going to a nightclub. My ex also had his work night out that night and he ended up in the same club. A part of me still loves him but I couldn't be bothered with any of the drama. Later on in the night some guy started dancing with me and I ended up kissing him. Not long after I turned around and he was talking to my friends boyfriend. I'm not sure as to whether he saw the kiss or not but i immediately felt guilty regardless of who broke up with who. At the end of the night me, my friend, her boyfriend and the guy I had kissed were outside waiting on taxis. My ex appeared and him and my friends boyfriend walked half way up the street having some form of chat then they came back and he said he was getting a taxi home and stormed off.

I don't know whether I should apologise in person when I next see him or what because I really would not want him to see that because I know I would of hated it if it was the other way about. But he might not even care anyway. I just don't want it to become more hostile because we have to communicate for our daughter. Help?

Do not apologise!
You did nothing wrong, why put yourself in the wrong and give him something to throw at you? I wouldn't mention it at all, it's none of his business.

I wouldn’t mention it. You are not accountable to your ex and it is none of his business.

If you bring it up it might seem like you are trying to get a reaction/ rub his nose in it.

Apologise for what?
He dumped you, you’re single. You as a single woman kissed someone else?
I’m finding it really hard to see what you’ve done wrong TBH.

There's no problem. Stop reading into it.

He dumped you but he wants you sitting at home feeling unattractive and unloved. Mother to his child and there for him. Family. While he goes out clubbing. But you went out and inadvertently confirmed to him as well as yourself that you would be able to find somebody else probably.... That is not how he thought it would pan out I bet.

DO NOT APOLOGISE. If he brings it up tell him that his lack of regard for has made you think a lot. His falling out of love with you seems fickle, shallow and it's all a massive turn off so you're ok with co-parenting.

He cannot (reasonably) have it both ways. He can't tell you he's gone off you and then get pissed off when you act in a way that signals ''that's ok''. He might sulk but that is not logical.

Good grief no! Definitely do not apologise. You haven’t done anything wrong. Even if he has seen you / been told, why on earth apologise? He broke up with you two months ago, who you kiss (provided it has no impact on your child) is nothing to do with him. Don’t give him power over bits of your life that are now no longer anything to do with him!

And as previous poster said, if he doesn’t know it looks like you are making sure he knows! Dick move.

Yeah I definitely don't want to rub his nose in it. I just wasn't sure what to do, was it more of a dick move to say something or to act like nothing happened.

But thank you, now I know just to leave it. Obviously when it's yourself you completely over analyse the situation, especially when alcohol is involved

OP, you don't know what happened with him and that girl and he feels no obligation to ''declare'' it, so why should you disclose any information about yourself to him? You see? He is comfortable being private (as is acceptable as he has told you it's over).

Make sure he is doing his fair share of child care, in a way that gives you free time.

Why in the fuck would you apologise? You have done NOTHING wrong. You are a single woman and can kiss anyone you wish to. Fuck your ex.

I know what you mean! I get mayor alcohol paranoia and always question things the next day. I would also need to sanity check stuff like this with others!

Say nothing. You’ve nothing to say. If he mentions it, say it’s none of his business, he is your EX.