How many friends?!

[Skiphoppa]

I am 30 this year and have a 1DD who is 2.

I am really struggling with my MH at the moment and part of that is down to not having many friends. Okay I only have about 4 friends which is quite depressing I try and see them as much as possible but they are quite busy (some have children one doesn’t).

I have tried meeting new people at baby groups but it’s short lived.

How many friends do you have? How did you meet? Any tips for me?

When I had dd1 I didn’t have any friends around me. So going to baby groups were a life line just to speak to other mums - even for a short time.

Then I moved back to my home town and got in touch with some of my old friends and only really became close with two. They are good solid friends though.

When Dc started school I made friends at the school gate with a few and clicked with one or two but these are not as close as my two solid friends.

You don’t need a massive circle of friends, just some good ones you can pick the phone up to if your having a shit day

What wrong with your MH?

@Skiphoppa I felt exactly this way when dd was 2. I actually pretty much ended up going to work and leaving dd with the nanny full time and partied and drank so much I ended up being too tired to work burnt myself out and quit my career.
That aside I then spent 4 months crying and wondering where I’d gone wrong and why I had no friends. I had one who has no dc and does not get the whole restrictions dc place upon you.

Anyway if someone had told me then that when dd goes to school I’m going to meet all these mums who are pretty much in the same boat and in all honesty of course you get the annoying parents but there’s always nice ones too then I would have felt a lot better. I go out nearly every week for coffee with other mums, we meet up for play dates and help each other out. Even silly things like being able to text someone to say what’s on tv tonight I can do now.
Hang on in there friends take time. My dd am has been at the school 3 years now and I’d say I’m just about making solid friendships that I know I will hang onto now for years to come.

If I was getting married I’d invite about 20 friends I think. Of those I have 2/3 I see weekly and rest are every 2/3 months. Or longer in a few cases as we live far apart.

I am very sociable tho and seeing people is one of my pleasures in life.

I have one true friend who I have known since we were 14 and another who I occasionally see but can't trust her. Other than him I am close with my siblings and cousins.