DCs with polar opposite personalities

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Anyone else got DCs with completely opposite personalities/mannerisms etc?
I’ve got an almost 4yo DD and a 2.5yo DS, and they couldn’t be more different if they tried.
Dd is, and always has been, very highly strung even as a baby. She’s the sort of child who needs constant attention, validation and reassurance, and if she doesn’t have it, all hell breaks loose. In the last year, the epic tantrums have calmed down a lot, and the truly explosive emotional meltdowns only happen once maybe twice a week now. When she’s happy, and has the attention she craves, she’s absolutely lovely, and can be really sweet when she wants to be.
DS on the other hand, is so laidback he’s almost horizontal. Compared to DD, he was the easiest baby - he kind of reminds me of the stereotypical “chilled surfer dude” type. Obviously, he’s 2, so tantrums happen and when they do happen they can be spectacular, but it takes a lot to get him to that point. He’s always been happy to just go along with the whole “No that’s naughty, let’s do this instead” approach, whereas DD is having none of that.
My parenting choices/methods have been mostly exactly the same for each child, and they are so close in age, I just find it really interesting to see how completely different they both are!

My db and I are like chalk and cheese. We got on briefly while he was tiny and once his personality developed, we have not been able to get along since. There is nothing either of us likes about the other. My dm used to be in bits about it, especially, as you said, we are v close in age and the parenting has been the same.

Nnn my Dsis and I are like that too. We were very similar as little kids - same interests, played together so if we were in trouble it would be for the same reasons etc. But as adults, we have pretty much nothing in common, interests are completely different, parenting styles couldn’t be more opposite.

I'm sure this is the last thing you want to hear OP, but DB and I were exactly as you describe (the age gap was slightly bigger but the genders and temperaments were exactly the same)

I have not spoken to DB for about ten years and our childhoods beyond the age of about 6 and 2 were practically separate, despite DM's best efforts

I have two very different DC who adore each other. DC1's gentle patience calms DC2 down. DC2's confidence encourages DC1 to try new things and be braver.

TreacherousPissFlap your situation doesn’t sound all that different from me and Dsis, although it’s not been 10 years, we don’t go out of our way to contact each other. We see each other for family events like weddings, Christmas etc and maybe our DCs birthdays if there’s a party happening but that’s about it. We would have absolutely nothing to say to each other if we were to spend time together socially, so we just don’t.

Johnny My two go from one extreme to the other - they either adore each other or they are actively trying to kill each other! There’s no Grey area. This morning is proving a difficult one on that front DD has decided she’s going to make breakfast as difficult as possible, and the whinging and whining is in turn winding DS up (along with me and DH), and DS has decided he’s having none of it and has thrown his banana at her head
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