Need some advice for a carer

[Crunchymum]

My mum (late 60's) has become unofficial career for an elderly relative.

Mum isn't in best health and I'm worried about the burden. Older relative is refusing any outside care help. Barring a cleaner.

Any suggestions? Any organisations we can contact?

I'll research properly tomorrow but I know there are a lot of carers here, who may be able to offer some advice.

Career is obviously carer.

Apologies. Don't mean that the relative is a burden per se. I mean the physical and emotional burden to my mum.

www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/practical-support/getting-care-and-support/carers-assessment

There is a topic here called elderly parents I think. If you post there there will be people with experience of this

Thanks!!!

She can request a carers assessment from adult social services

As a carer, I've gone into people for domestic tasks ( like housework and shopping ) and gradually built up a relationship with them. Over time they've allowed me to do more and more personal care. Many elderly people are incredibly proud and don't want to admit they may need help and a sensitive, subtle approach is needed. Being an unpaid carer is incredibly hard work at times so I can understand your worries for your Mum.