Lone parent Mother’s Day

[TightPants]

I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself!

I’ve got a 6 yr old who’s too young to make a card without prompting, but his my ex, my dad and my brother have not bothered to buy a card from him, but a bunch of daffs for him to give me or anything.

I’m missing my mum who died 2 years ago who would’ve done these things.

Anyone else?

It gets better, takes a while, I had nothing for the first few years, I remember crying one year as all I wanted was someone to make me a cup of tea. I also found shop assistants great if you explained the circumstances and they would love taking my daughter off to choose something as did she. Happy Mother’s Day x

Also just to add, my mother is alive but wouldn’t even cross her mind or my dads to acknowledge it but she expects something maybe remember the times your mum helped and the relationship you all had.

Thanks Proudmum
This Morher’s Day has coincided with my period which hasn’t helped!
Yes I’m very lucky to have had such a great mum x

You’ll look back at these early years when your child is old enough to appreciate what you’ve done with pride. You’re doing it all, it’s currently hard work, no recognition, no one to bounce off and no one to share but it will definitely get better and you’ll be proud of both yourself and your child. You’ll see your child growing and know that you did that. X

Could use the day as an occasion to talk about your Mum, get photos out, light a candle.

Best wishes to you.
One lone parent to another.
Got chocs from my teen.
Usually get nothing but im ok about it

I was in your position at one point, I treated myself. My children are older now and they do simple special things which are appreciated.

I used to get a card on Mother's Day and one on Father's Day ("Make a card for the person who does all the Dad things for you"). Now DC are moved away I get nothing, although I know they love and appreciate me.

My theory is that beyond school, there was never anyone about to suggest they should do 'extra' things for me - don't be afraid to prompt!

I'm single. Mine is 5. I've taken her out and showed her mother's Day things in the shop and she's got some things and we've wrapped them together. I would something not nothing and no one's going to do it now so I do it myself

I usually just buy a cake or we go out for lunch or tea somewhere. Sometimes I buy myself something nice too. I've never been bothered about cards though.

I hear you OP. I have two DC, 6 and 9, and it’s very low-key here. I made sure they sent a card to their stepmum. As usual, their father didn’t help them arrange anything for me but he’s a selfish, horrible git so I just count my lucky stars I don’t have to live with him anymore.

DD made me a card at school, brought me breakfast in bed and made me another couple of cards at church. DS wished me a happy mother’s day this morning and sang a song at church with the other children. I sent them to the shop yesterday to buy me some flowers. Job done!

I am a bit miffed that DP didn’t help the children to sort anything out for me but I didn’t really expect him to. He’s off with his mum so nothing from him today.

If money was no object and I could have the exact mother’s say I wanted, I’d like:

• a full night’s sleep with no one waking me up multiple times a night for toilet visits / cuddles / breakfast.

• a lie-in with breakfast in bed.

• me to get up to find the house sparkling clean and tidy, the DC dressed and with hair and teeth brushed, and everyone being nice to each other.

• a card from both DC, flowers already trimmed and in a vase and an enormous box of tasty chocolates.

• a trip out to the park in the sunshine.

• all meals cooked, served and cleaned away without me lifting a finger.

• a cuddle and a story with the DC before they went to bed without grumpiness or arguing.

• packed lunches and school uniforms to be miraculously ready tonight without me having to sort them out.

One can dream!

Next year plan something yourself maybe. Like a ‘special’ picnic, or a trip. Make your own traditions. It’s not too late to get some icecream and a tub of sprinkles, make it a special mother’s day treat, for instance.

I’m a lone parent too. DD is a teenager, and I have no family in the UK. It is literally just me and her. Last two mother’s day were just normal days. This year she is friends with a girl who’s grown up without a mother figure. They had a sleepover last night, my DD made me a card and toast in bed. They’re sat watching love island after I’ve cooked them Sunday lunch. I’m resting a bit then I’ll make a cake. It’s all chilled.