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Not a fan of Mothering Sunday

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DailyMailSucksWails · 30/03/2019 20:38

Not because my kids are terrible (only in an ordinary way). Or b/c my mother was terrible (she did her best). I just think the event is overblown schmaltz. And it's getting in way of things I'd prefer to do by myself on a Sunday not 'with the family', if I'm honest.

Youngest DC is planning to do loads for me tomorrow. It's really sweet, so I need to grit my teeth thru that. I'm an ungrateful unsentimental cow who can't get enthused.

Dunno why but I keep thinking of ppl who have had horrible relationships with their mothers & how the whole event must feel fake & forced.... and everywhere. Will be chatted about constantly on media tomorrow.

Anyone else feeling meh, resigned & unexcited?

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LowLifeOpinions · 30/03/2019 20:42

I know lots of people who feel like this. I'm very proud of our local church for holding a Mothering Sunday Runaways service tonight.

Singlenotsingle · 30/03/2019 20:43

It's only a commercial opportunity for the shops to sell more stuff. Like fathers day, Valentine's Day, etc. But if your dc is excited, you're stuck with it, aren't you?

PurpleDaisies · 30/03/2019 20:44

It’s awful if you want kids but can’t.

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duckduckgoose2 · 30/03/2019 20:47

Awful if you’re divorced and kids are too small to remember, awful if you have lost your mum.
It is crap - you should just try and be kind and love each other every day, not one token day.

sobeyondthehills · 30/03/2019 20:48

I don't like it and given half a chance I wouldn't.

But the school have done mother's day assembly, DS made me a card and looking at the post, my sister has sent me a mother's day card she knows DP won't (cause he knows not to bother and he doesn't want to celebrate it either)

I don't really have a reason for not wanting to celebrate it other than I am a moody cow

BooseysMom · 30/03/2019 20:49

I tend to get pissed off with the over the top hype too. Anyone would think it's Xmas ffs! I remember one year me and my mother had a disagreement and i didn't phone her on mother's day although I did send a card in the post. She phoned me later in the day sounding very hard done by and I had to pretend I was about to phone her! Now she's passed away I regret all the times I didn't phone for a while and the time I should have spent with her. She chain-smoked and was quite cutting in her opinions about my son so I hated going to see her..but now I feel guilty and like I should have tried harder.
Happy Mothers Day ..Sorry! Grin

justthecat · 30/03/2019 20:51

It’s become over commercialised like everything else.
I had a crap mother,very ironic she died on mother’s day.
I don’t read too much into the day, it is what you want it to be

duckduckgoose2 · 30/03/2019 20:57

I’m rundown and have an infection I can’t kick - I don’t feel able to say what I really want is to be left alone for the day - I do nice things with the kids all the time.

Spudina · 30/03/2019 20:57

My Mum died when I was 16. Mothers Day was awful until I became a Mum. Now it's tolerable. But I can't help but think how hard it must be for little kids in school who have also lost their Mum, when schools make such a big fuss of it. Its only real function is to make money for card makers and florists.

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 30/03/2019 21:12

Its awful when you'd love to be a mother but are still childless

RainbowMum11 · 30/03/2019 21:21

It doesn't have to be commercialised- we just get flowers or a small token gift but it's more about having a meal together (at one of our houses, but we all contribute) as it's much more important for us to just be together, that's how we've always done it.
I have home made cards and little gifts that DD5 has already shown me (she got them at school and was so excited!!), that means mire to me than anything.
I am missing my own DD who would have now been 7, so we will visit her grave - it's always another of those hard days for me because she should be with me, and then go with my DM to my DSis and spend the afternoon together.

KindnessCrusader · 30/03/2019 22:11

Adult child of an abusive mother here. I wish there was a box to tick or some kind of filter to STOP the barrage of Mother's Day related emails that start in bloody February. The day is bittersweet because my own kids try to make it so special and so I try to look at it as a celebration of breaking the cycle!

confusedandemployed · 30/03/2019 22:15

I love how happy it makes DD aged 6 to give me a little pressie and be nice to me (for once 😂)

But since my own DM died 22 years ago it really doesn't seem important to me. Perhaps tomorrow I'll take my firstborn (my ancient, nearly 17yo DDog who can still outrun me) on a long walk and remember her.

Octopus37 · 30/03/2019 22:37

I have just spent the last half hour hearing DH arguing with DS2 about writing my card out, he couldn’t be arsed cause he was on his xbox. Also don’t want to sound like an entitled best but we’re not going out to eat cause I didn’t book somewhere myself in time. DH is st dirk until 7 tomorrow night and I miss my Mum and MIL. Bit the biggest fan this year

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