Friends telling me I seem unhappy

[AnotherNightCooking]

I’ve been with DP for 3 years.
Recently during conversations with a few friends they have said I seem to be really unhappy in my relationship. I’ve not thought I was.
They’ve also mentioned how controlling he is of me.
I’m 48 , was married previously for 25 years but now I feel confused!

Do you think he's controlling?

Have they say d how they think he's controlling?

You don't think your unhappy but you've told them how controlling he is ?
I suggest you be honest with yourself. If your tell your friends about your dp they are going to make assumptions.

Sorry I mean they think he's controlling not you .

When I was with my ex, my friends told me I had changed and I was not as happy and bubbly as I once was. I didn't believe them and thought I was happy. It was only after I ended it with him, I realised my personality had changed and I had not been happy.

I don't know if you are happy or not, but if you have known your friends for longer than 3 years and they do not have an alterior motive, then I would listen to them. Close, true friends sometimes know you better then you know yourself. I didn't listen and it took a long time to build up my confidence.

Have they given examples of what they think is controlling?