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Proud thread

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mamaduckbone · 29/03/2019 20:00

My dh has suffered from horrendous mental health problems for the last 5 years and thanks to some great CBT and his sheer bloody minded determination he's finally coming out the other side.

Why we know this:

he has a photography job next week that he's looking forward to rather than being petrified.
he bought a red sweatshirt on a whim and has worn it
he no longer has panic attacks about the boiler
he doesn't drive to Aldi on a Friday crying because he wants to be dead.

There are many other reasons, of course.

I am unbelievably proud of him for making himself get better, and for us as a couple and a family for getting through it.

Sorry - just needed to say that. What are you proud of today?

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Winterfellismyhome · 29/03/2019 20:02

Thats so lovely. Good luck to both of you

Im proud of my 8month old ds pulling himself up on the furniture. His little face lights up everytime he does it ❤️

ssd · 29/03/2019 20:05

I'm so pleased for you op. Well done to your dh and yourself, you sound a lovely family.

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mamaduckbone · 29/03/2019 20:05

That's so lovely - we have a teen and a 9 year old now but I remember those days so well. Every milestone is a proud moment

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NotLikeThis · 29/03/2019 20:06

That's so amazing to read, what an achievement for him. And for you for the support you'll have been giving for the whole time. ❤️

I'm proud of myself for taking the first step toward moving away from a very awful time and relationship and keeping myself and my beautiful 22 month old daughter safe and happy. She's my world and I'm proud to call myself her mum!

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 29/03/2019 20:07

I'm proud of dm for coping with the recent passing of her df.Im also proud of ds 5 every day.

GreatDuckCookery · 29/03/2019 20:08

That’s wonderful OP

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mamaduckbone · 29/03/2019 20:09

Well done notlikethis - I'm sure you and your beautiful daughter have a bright future ahead of you.

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Syncope · 29/03/2019 21:01

That's fantastic @mamaduckbone, glad your DH is doing well. My DH has serious mental health issues too, and I completely get how things that might seem small to some people, can be huge and so significant. I hope things continue to be positive for you and your husband.

Figmentofimagination · 29/03/2019 21:25

Well done OP's husband!

I'm proud for a couple of things. I've just finished my first month in a new full-time job since becoming a SAHM nearly 2 years ago. I'm loving the job, I love being mentally challenged, and it makes me appreciate my time with DS more.

I'm really proud of my 22month old DS. He's a little bit behind with some milestones but it looks like he'll be hitting them really soon! He's learnt to climb up onto the sofa (so he can wait for me to come home from work), and has taken a couple of independent steps when we let go of him. Fingers crossed by the time he is 2 he'll be walking easily and he won't need to go to physio anymore!

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mamaduckbone · 29/03/2019 21:37

Lovely stories all round

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Rainbowsandrascals · 29/03/2019 21:39

Well done to you and your DH OP. Living with a partner with depression can be so hard at times. Great to hear he has come through the other side.

Chocolateisfab · 29/03/2019 21:43

I am proud of my ddog! She got through a major surgery today.
She even managed to try and eat a chihuahua on the way out of the surgery!
Home and enjoying lots of tlc.

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mamaduckbone · 29/03/2019 21:47

Thank you - I can't lie; it's been tough, and has very nearly finished us.

Small things to others (dh going to the bar or driving somewhere new on his own) are a massive deal to us. You don't realise how debilitating it has been until you notice the changes for the better as things improve.

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Palominoo · 29/03/2019 21:47

Lovely thread op, overcoming mental health problems is a huge achievement.

I hope you show him this thread.

3boysandabump · 29/03/2019 22:40

That's fantastic. Well done op's husband!

I'm proud of my 8 year old son. He had to go to a skipping festival with school. He can't skip for toffee despite lots of practice and he has been asking all week if he could just stay off. We had a talk about having to do things we don't want to sometimes and he went off feeling ok but still not looking forward to it. He did his best and actually enjoyed it. So proud of him for giving it his all and trying to make the best of it. It was lovely to see him come out of school with a big smile on his face and he couldn't wait to tell me all about it.

Acidrain · 29/03/2019 22:42

I'm proud of my 17 month old taking 3 very wobbly steps on his own today.

ladylinda52 · 30/03/2019 03:38

Been where you are. It's the most frightening place to be. Depression is the most selfish illness. Now, ten years down the line, it's like a bad dream and I have to remind myself it ever happened. So glad you are coming through it. Look after yourself, and celebrate the 'baby steps' to recovery. You will get there, and both be stronger as a result.

Rarfy · 30/03/2019 03:51

This was dp last year @mamaduckbone i hope you are proud of yourself too for being a supportive partner. I know too well how it also affects you when your partner is deep down in that situation. Mine also had cbt along with a small dose of sertraline. He is back to the man i fell in love with.

And for the thread - i am proud of 11 week old dd every day. We attend a weekly class and every week she does something new and more mind blowing than the week before. The class really helps me to see her progress. Waited so long for her and she is completely perfect.

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mamaduckbone · 30/03/2019 09:34

I know what you mean ladylinda - the worst times are now starting to feel like a bad dream.

Thanks so much for all the supportive replies, and for those in a similar situation - it really does get better.

Lovely to hear other people's proud moments too. I'll add another couple of my own...

I'm proud of ds2 for coping with a couple of nasty characters at school with stoicism and tenacity and not letting them get to him.

I'm also proud of my amazing mum who at 86 is still sharp as a pin and is currently being a wonderful friend to her best pal who lost her son to cancer.

And of ds1 who recently had his best parents evening ever after 9 years of us dreading what his teachers were going to say.

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MrsMozartMkII · 30/03/2019 12:25

Mamaduckbone that is most excellent indeed lass.

I'm proud of packing a 5-bed house up, whilst taking time out to house hunt many miles away and deal with a new client, without either losing the plot or packing a dog (at last I don't think I've packed a dog... quick head count).

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mamaduckbone · 04/05/2019 18:29

I'm going to resurrect my own thread, because it's lovely and I'm having another proud moment...

Ds2 has just been awarded players' player by his rugby team. For a shy boy who's been bullied by a couple of little shits this year (one of whom is on the said rugby team) it's a huge achievement and I'm positively glowing with pride!

Fire away folks of Mumsnet...proud moments should be shared (especially if like me you're the sort of person who doesn't brag in real life)

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