Anyone got a child who's unhappy with the secondary school they will be going too in September?

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My poor DD wont even talk about it and is in total denial. We all naively thought she had choices back when we did the form but she clearly didn't. The school she will be going too is fine and I know lots of children who are happy there but its not the school she wanted (grammar). Any ideas how I can make her happier and accept this?

Does your DD know people at her school or is it a case of all her friends going to another one together?
She may feel very differently after her induction day. She'll meet knew kids and will get caught up in the excitement of a new experience.
I wouldn't push it for now - she will come around.

Thank you yes I hoped induction day might help. And good idea to leave it. If it comes up in conversation she just says no I'm going to school which is the grammar she hasn't got into and very likely now wont. She had friends going to both schools.

Bump. She loves school so much at the moment. Think whole thing is so hard for them even if they are happy about where they are going.

I think if she has been imagining herself at the other school it is hard to let that go. She may be secretly hoping that somehow it will come right and she will get a place at the other school after all. My DD is in year 7 now and one of her friend's didn't get the school she was hoping for last year. She clung onto hope that she might get in for quite a while. She's very happy at the school she did get a place now.

Year 6 children still have quite a while to go at primary school (even though for us it will seem really quick). I think you will find that once they go off to their induction days it will start to seem more real but that probably won't be until end of June/July. Also, presumably a teacher from the new school will visit them at primary school as well. Then there will sorting out uniforms, etc to come as well.

I would just acknowledge her disappointment and not talk too much about it at all right now.

Thank you. She is coming round now. Because the grammar is over subscribed and she didn't get in for that reason shes worried classmates will say but i thought you were clever? Bless her. It's a cruel system.