New mum- it's so full on !!

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DS is 9 weeks old, he's an absolute pleasure but I'm having a wave of exhaustion and panic ... being a new mum is just so full on!

I have a wonderful partner but no family around and it just hits me sometimes the sense of responsibility 24/7.

Mums with toddlers and babies... you are actually saints!! I don't know how you do it!

Anyone else feeling the same?

Yes! I can completely relate. It’s cos your mind is so busy thinking of everything. I promise it gets easier!!

You just get used to it.

It gets worse when you have more. I have three and my standards have dropped considerably

As long as all my kids are breathing when they have gone to bed - it’s job done!

I recall so clearly at 4 weeks my sister whispered to me "it's bloody relentless isn't it". I knew when I was pregnant I'd only want one but if I'd been in two minds, the relentlessness would have swayed me to stick with one

Certainly is full-on!
I had a newborn and a toddler. They are in primary school now and there are new challenges....
I polish my halo each morning after dropping them off at school.

Doesn't help that I've been full of cold for the past 10 days and I've had two periods since giving birth 9 weeks ago!! 😰

You do get used to it and it quickly becomes your norm. Of course I remember being able to nip to the shops without military precision, but I don’t miss it anymore.

They get easier (in some ways!) as they get older and can communicate with you more. I feel less trapped now dd is 2 and talking, it’s quite nice having a little chatterbox with me. Still some days where I think “when does this end?!” But I think that’s very normal.

Mine are 5, 3 and 11 weeks. Yes, full on!

Says every new parent, ever.

Not sure why people are so determined to ignor the millions and millions of people who say this. Only to be surprised that actually, they are not super special amazing parents and yes, it is full on.

@BlueSkiesLies Bit mean-spirited? Of course people are shocked when they see for themselves. It doesn't mean they don't believe it when told but we all have to experience things ourselves to fully comprehend them.

Harsh @BlueSkiesLies it's one thing hearing something and quite another living it!

My first is 9 months now, it's still very full on but SO MUCH easier now he's bigger and moving about. I've been lucky to have such a joy of a baby too!

Congratulations!

Yes totally overwhelming and exhausting in the first few weeks/months. You will get used to it and it will get easier. Don't be hard on yourself and enjoy your new baby.

Mine are teens and I still feel like this.

The stuff to worry about changes, but it never stops.

Bloody hell BlueSkies.. Every new parent does say it, and the childless around them do listen but until you've done it yourself you have no idea. At all.

OP I promise it gets easier. We've just passed week 23 and even though there are times when I still utter "f**k this" under my breath (!), it is now becoming the norm and I'm feeling way happier than at 9 weeks when I just wanted to put her back in my stomach for a few hours so I could have a time out!

Although actually, my 11 week old is currently the easiest of my three to deal with. At least it’s just milk/sleeps/cuddles/walks in the pram/playing on the play mat etc to deal with. Not the school runs, cooking meals, requests for me to make clay models/paint/play games/play sylvanian families, school reading, piano practice, rainbows, ballet, gymnastics, swimming, play dates, birthday parties and refereeing arguments etc that’s involved with the older two!

I think I'm so lucky with my little one, he's very easy going and smiley. It would just be lovely to have family near by or occasionally someone to take him for a walk.

I had horrendous pelvic girdle pain during the pregnancy and I ended up not being able to walk so it's been months without exercise (was very fit prior) I feel so exhausted in my body it's difficult mentally.

... and the house is a tip! 😰

le it IS hard work mentally as well as physically recovering from pg and birth.

This weekend Daddy takes baby out for some fresh air, you have a lie down with a snooze book and housework can wait.

You're awesome, yeah. Don't forget that.

@FlibbertyGiblets Thank you, sometimes we all need to hear that ❤️

And thanks everyone... nice to know I'm not alone !