Mothers Day card for an NC mother I love but don't like

[LittleScottish]

Have forgotten to buy one so I need to use a Moonpig - type service.

I'm pretty much NC with my narcissistic and manipulative mum, but I do acknowledge MD as well as birthdays/Xmas etc as I am grateful for the good bits of my childhood.

I love her because I have to - she's my mum, but I don't like her and wouldn't give her the time of day were we not related.

Anyway (sorry for that digression!) I need to find a card with just the right amount of non-cutesy, arms-length sentiment, without it being passive aggressive.

I struggle with finding this every year - it's a mahoosive gap in the market!

If anyone has seen/bought anything similar, please can you share?

Just get a generic card of a field/flower/sunset/garden/puppy

To mum
Happy mother's day
From LittleScottish

Job done

Or how about one of those cards you send on mother's Day that's not actually for your mum...they say

"You're just like a mum to me"

DH has a similar problem. Try thortful - they have some quirky cards and you might find something suitable.

I'd send an 'arty' type like formerbabe suggested.

You are really not under any obligation to love her just because she is related to you...

Just send any because it really doesn’t matter. Your only struggling to find one because it’s your issue and you want to prove a point.

She probably wouldn’t even get the point you were trying to find a non gushy one.

I'm not sending one this year. I've always sent one in the past out of guilt, but am setting a precedent this year. I very rarely speak to her so sending a card seems a bit hypocritical. Just as her expecting one, celebrating her mothering would be hypocritical too.

£1.50 blank card from the supermarket. Buy and post today 2nd class. Does it really matter if it arrives a day or 2 late?

Don’t bother with a card, any you find will be either hypocritical or not acceptable, because you are trying to express feelings that don’t exist, for appearances only.

I remember the year I gave up trying to find the right card for my mother , and just gave her one that was a big fat lie, but which will have satisfied her narcissism. The next year I was NC.

Out of interest, can you describe what love-but-not-like feels like? I have never understood it.

I enjoyed handmade cards from the children when they were little but I made it clear I didn't want a card as they for older. I don't celebrate mothers day. I'm a mother all year round and I think it puts pressure on families to buy cards and unwanted crap.

I've followed my mother's lead as she couldn't see the point of it either and found it wasteful.

Have forgotten to buy one so I need to use a Moonpig - type service.

Got worried when I read this so checked it was still only Thursday.
You've still got time to buy a card. I send MD card on the Friday 1st class post, always gets to her on Saturday even when I've posted on Fri afternoon.

Just get a generic card of a field/flower/sunset/garden/puppy

To mum
Happy mother's day
From LittleScottish

^this^

I'm NC with my MIL & DH visits every few weeks out of obligation. Picked a MD card for her that appeared blank inside as nothing on the back to suggest a message. However opened it up & it's got a gushy message saying Thankyou for everything you do. Unless by that it means being sarcastic, passive aggressive & self obsessed the card is spot on & if it wasn't for the fact I cba I'd bin it & go to buy another one.