Private gp for just one issue

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If I go to a private gp about something will it be kept from my nhs gp ?

they aren’t at risk

Having pnd doesn’t mean my children are at risk

Do remember that private or not, they have to follow safeguarding protocols, your nhs gp is actually better placed to access wrap around services like hv

Then what is the problem with seeing a different NHS GP?

At my surgery they have weekly meetings so my usual gp would be notified I don’t like her attitude towards me about it she was really unpleasant

It was badly explained to you, but if your mh issues are serious and there's a baby to consider then extra support does have to be considered also.

This does not mean you will lose your child.

I've long term serious mental illness, dd has never known me without them, when I've been very ill we've had additional support from SS and other agencies. They weren't judgmental or critical just supportive and helpful and actually often reassured me I was actually doing a good job as a mum.

A private dr has the same duty of care as an Nhs one, it's possible they'll assess you differently to your Nhs one (who does sound a bit of a prat to be fair) but if there is a concern you need support as a mother they still have to cover that and potentially inform SS.

Hiding from the problem is not the answer. Get the help you need and I don't just mean the dr

It would be easier and much less costly just to switch GP surgeries to one without the GP you don't get on with.
I think its relevant to your ongoing care that your usual GP is aware of what medications and treatments you are receiving.

I wouldn’t class as serious I had depression aged 14-16 on Prozac but I was actually being bullied so there was a cause
Pnd the first time was due to my son being very unwell and screaming 24/7
This doctor seems to talk to me like I’m stupid and dangerous

I’m just so low and I really needed support

I'm sorry for assuming there were safeguarding problems, it just seemed dodgy going behind your GPs back and there wasn't much more info to go on. No one takes babies away from their mother without very good reason. I hope you get the support you need.
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I just felt so confused all you read is how if you fee low to ask for help and I really felt judged and so upset
I’m not sure I can even change due to go catchment as we have only a few surgeries and if you already have one you can’t really change as all over subscribed

You can change unless NHS England allow them to close their lists, which is very rare. Just switch and this will be a problem of the past.

I will see if the other local surgery can take me then.
I’m just so tired and tearful but I can cope with my children I look after them fine but there’s nothing left of me I feel drained and never happy like I’m just doing what I have to and I’m empty

There is seriously nothing wrong with a private GP; some of the attitudes are very odd! I much prefer the experience - you get half an hour in general which is invaluable especially if you want to talk about MH stuff. My private GP has signed me off and prescribed ADs without any problem (or telling my NHS GP). I've also had a lot of private therapy / counselling / psych support without my NHS GP knowing. There's nothing sneaky about it but I've never met my NHS GP and it takes forever to get an appointment so I don't see much point taking up resources when I can get help elsewhere.

OP, I see a private GP on Harley Street. Expensive but always been great. I love the fact that, eg, blood test results come back that day.

Hi OP. Sorry to hear you're feeling low.
I had PND and went to my gp. I confessed to her that I had thoughts of harming myself and my child (I was in a very dark place). She was duty bound to refer me to SS.
I was visited that week by a social worker and a HV. The social worker was lovely. We chatted about the support I had, how I was feeling. She checked my interactions with my child and the HV checked her for injuries. The social worker looked around my house and where baby was sleeping. She gave me her number and told me to call her if I needed support but that she was happy I was not a danger to my child.
Please don't be afraid of being 'reported'. They won't just come and take your child. They want to help you. Your gp sounds unsympathetic, could you see a different doctor at that practice? Don't be scared though, she cannot take your child and she can't tell anyone else to either. She can only refer you to the people who can decide. And I'm sure that you're not a danger to your children so you will be fine.