Would tell a sibling that your annoyed that they didn't acknowledge your birthday?

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Just that really dB hasn't acknowledged mine my dh or my dc his dniece and dnephew birthday for about 3 years . So in return ignored his . It's was my big birthday earlier this year I invited dB to my celebrations it was ignored not as much as a happy birthday sis . It was a big birthday for dd last week that also ignored. I want to message him and ask have I upset him and tell him his actions are hurtful . Dh said it's because he doesn't care and let it go .
I don't see dB last time was about 18 months ago even dm said can go months without seeing him .
It's possible something to do with my dad who I have nc with but without knowing I can't say .
Wwyd ?

No one then

I don't know, it's going to be hard because so much time has gone by and you have been filling in his side of the silent conversation with assumptions about why he hasn't been in touch.

I don't think a big discussion about his absence is going to fix this. You'll more than likely end up fighting and go another 18 months without talking.

I think I'd send a message which for all intents is just a signal that you are around and you miss him and that you aren't holding a grudge. I'd keep it light on emotion and maintain a friendly vibe.

It's a long life, you can unravel the details of what happened and why later.

I could be completely wrong though - it's just my opinion.

Thanks for your comment.
It's good advice .
I'm feeling a bit down today about other things but I hate to fall out with anyone but family it's awful .