Yet another pregnancy announcement

[EvenLess]

Social media is the worst when you're actively TTC. Sitting in the bathroom bawling because yet another friend has announced they are having a baby I'm happy for them but sad it hasn't happened for us yet.

We haven't even been trying that long but I feel surrounded by people with children, constant pregnancy and birth announcements or by people who do that stupid fucking head tilt and ask when it'll be our turn. I guess it's part of being in your late twenties/early thirties and being childless but it bloody hurts.

Any tips from those who have been here for distraction and how to stop feeling sorry for myself?

Don't fret - some people have a child at 16 and some people at 42.. it happens when it's supposed to, in terms of your life path.

Well you can feel happy that you’re at the “it has happened for us...yet” stage rather than one of it seeming unlikely or knowing it never will. But yes, anything you want you will see so much of. I remember when struggling to have dc2 every single family we saw had 2 children. You are also at an age when lots of your contemporaries are probably having the same idea as you. I would let yourself have a bit of a cry but set a time limit on it - i’ll Be sad for fifteen minutes and then i’ll Go and do x.
And good luck.

I've been ttc for 12 years and it's easier to hide it and pretend to be as full of joy as I should be, would be and want to be, but doesn't hurt any less.

All I can say is you can be happy for them at the same time as being sad for yourself. That's ok.

Also, obviously from my position, I'm going to say you haven't been trying very long from the sound of it. No need to feel hopeless yet.

For today, turn off social media and go and do something you couldn't do if you were pregnant or had a baby. Have a gin, turn your music up loud and dance around wildly. Or whatever. Something unrelated to babies anyway.

Yep I remember that feeling; it’s horrible.
It’s funny, I never used to get upset at the birth of a baby, it was the pregnancy announcements or scan photos that got to me.
Take a minute to have a cry/rant, then go and do something nice for yourself.

You could always tell the enquirers that you don’t want to discuss your sex life?