32 weeks pregnant with twins... i cant cope

[Tinytim123]

Hi im skky im 21 and im 32 weeks pregnant with twins that share the placenta they are fine but me on the other hamd i am not i really dont know how much more i cant take i cant sleep my eating is being put off my anxiety is through the roof i jist want them out im suffering with depression already and this is just making things 10x worse i dont know what to do no more i need them out i dont know how people can do pregnancy id rather be woken up by the screaming than being woke up by constant kicking all day everyday i cant cope

Oh, I'm so sorry things are so tough. I don't have any advice to offer, but I'm sure someone will come along soon with some. Please talk to your GP and midwife and tell them how you are feeling. Best of luck and congratulations on the twins!

Today, call your widmife or dr and tell them how you are feeling and that you desperately see assistance. It may he counselling or a low dose of anti-depressants that are safe during pregnancy. Pregnancy depression can lead to PND so it’s a good idea to try and get on top of it.

I think at one point in pregnancy every mom feels like this. As a twin mom, you are probably closer to delivery then a singleton mom. Not sure if that helps or not!

Every day that your baby bakes at this point is a good thing! Try and find others in your area in a similar position, to commiserate with and bond over pregnancy misery’s and joys.

So many errors! I am sorry. Typing to quickly and it’s latish at night here:)

If it's of any comfort, I found newborn twin life, even with a toddler, to be much better than late twin pregnancy.

Thankyou all for your comments means a lot to know there is support out there i have contacted midwife just awating a response i will be having c section at 36 weeks but the weeks building up to that is only going to get worse and im not sure i can cope with that

Hi op you've done great so far! Just hold on for a few more weeks and soon the pregnancy will be a distant memory and you will have two gorgeous babies

Try swimming, it helps take the weight of your body, go with a friend.

Hi @Tinytim123

Unforgettable last weeks of pregnancy feel so long. Do you have anxiety over anything specific? People might have experience of it and maybe some shared experiences might help you a bit?

My only advice is too not plan too far in the future. It's so overwhelming. Also disregard about 90% of advice given by friends and family who are well meaning but have no idea of how you feel right now.
Hopefully your midwife will come back to you soon.

Once you have your beautiful babies you will forget these hard days.

Hi there yes i have anxiety,depression and split personality its all just a it too hard for me but yeah i have no support network around me just me and my partner hes great but bless him sometimes he dosent have the time to be listening to me hes always working etc im just so tired and its doing my head in i would rather be woken up and kept awake by screaming than being kept awake by all the moving i dont enjoy it one bit im trying to keep ot going but its becoming very hard for me i just want them out it jist feels like this pregnancy is against me

When is your next pregnancy appointment. You need to tell your midwife or doctors how you feel. You won't be the first person who's talked to them about feeling like this.

Pregnancy is tough on your body and mind, so be kind to yourself. But above all, tell someone in real life how its making you feel. You're on the home stretch now.

Please talk to your midwife and tell her how yOu are feeling . Do you have any family support like your mum or an aunt ? It’s worth talking to them too.

I’m afraid they won’t do a section before 36 weeks because you are tired and fed up. This is because it’s a risk to the babies , they will leave them in for as long as they can .

Otherwise you may end up in the hospital for several weeks with your babies in the special care until . They won’t be screaming , they will be in incubators wired up to machine. And that’s much MUCH worse for you and them than being tired and uncomfortable at home .

My next appointment is on wednesday so will speak to someone then and no i have no one like that my mum kicked me out so was homless then recently just moved into my new place so litrally on my own most of the time staring at 4 walls its hard its only the matter of weeks but its just dragging feels like every day just drags as like i said im here on my own and yes i know i cant have a c section before 36 weeks thays not what im saying i just wanted to know im not the inly one in the world that feels like this so low when im meant to be excited to meet my girls but im just not anymore and i get that but thays not what im saying im saying i would rather be woken up to them screaming for me than being woken up by kicking left right and centre its mental torture for me

OP actually the most common time for twins to be born is week 35. That is what my consultant told me and mine came at 35+2. So in spite of planned section at 36w, you never know!!

Also although it might sound odd, I found keeping moving helped. Gentle cross trainer at gym followed by stretch, walks, swimming, pregnancy yoga. Seemed to calm mine and made it easier for me to rest.

Also Imogen your post is really not helpful as many twins end up in NICU or SCBU so scaremongering about it will not help OP. Her babies may well end up there anyhow.

OP mine were in NICU for 2 weeks and then under outreach team care for a further 5-6 weeks so tube fed, couldn't leave house etc. It was tedious but fine and tbh lots, lots easier than late pregnancy!

Op, that last few weeks is horrible, and feels like it goes on forever, but just keep reminding yourself that it's 4 weeks at the very most, and then your girls will be here, and the hell of pregnancy will be over. I hated pregnancy, especially the last few weeks, and even more so with my twins, it's normal.

Speak to your midwife - mine asked how I was and I cried my eyes out at her.

In the meantime, are you doing antenatal classes? Is there anyone there you could meet up with for a coffee? Where are you? Could you go onto the local boards on here and see if anyone wants to meet with you?

Hi everyone thankyou so much seriously i dont tbink you understand how much all these comments mean to me i feel like a fool bit reading tjese makes me feel like i got some hope i cant wait for the precious little ones to be here of coirse i cant jist pregnancy i do not like it one bit haha and no i have not troed lookong at local chats etc i will have to try and have a see and as for swimming and stuff i will deffo have to have a look into my nearest pool i am in reading southcote not really a lot up here i can do but my midwife got back to me and has schedualed me in for a phone call at 3pm so im pretty sure hes going to hear how much im struggling because i wont be able to figgt the tears back like ypu guus keep saying its only 4 weeks it's not long at all just seems long because im on my own most of the time :)

Maybe write down all the points you want to tell your midwife later? Will help you keep on track and not leave anything out, especially if you become upset.

You might find the midwife knows of a group you could go to, or another young mum you could have a chat to - she won't be able to give you their details but she might be able to pass your details on with your permission.

Thankyou guys thats great 😊

I had terrible antenatal depression - possibly wouldn’t have survived without anti-ds and good perinatal mental health support.

I went into Labour with DTs at 34+5 because of a bad kidney infection, so they both had to go to NICU and have IV antibiotics just in case. But the nurses were so lovely and took such good care of them that it felt absolutely right. I have rarely felt happier than when doing skin to skin with them in NICU.

Chances are you’ll all be fine, but sometimes it helps to know that possible bad outcomes needn’t be unbearable.

Ps six years later DTs are a joy and a delight. Being a twin mum is tough, especially at first, but so very worth it.

Oh goodness sorry to hear that but im glad everyone is ok i cant wait for them to be here i just want to be a mum and have something to actually wake up for if you get what i mean all this insomia over something that isnt physically infront of me it jist drives me insane i was on anti depressants but went off them but i will talk to my midwife as may need them again

Have a look at tamba.org.uk
It’s an association for twins, there may be a group localto you where you can meet other families with twins and get support and help.
Hope all goes well for you 💐💐

I'm not sure how mobile you are or whether you need/have transport but I wonder if going to a baby group might be a good idea. You could get to see some people and a cuppa and test out groups to see which ones you like.

Rising panic is awful and detrimental to your health. You need to tell the midwife/GP/Consultant etc as stress is awful let alone when you are carrying twins. I'm no medical expert but when I was suffering severe stress I was having a rush of adrenalin in the early hours which made my heart race etc. Very scary.

You have come this far though and you've got to hang in there for what is most likely going to be for a few more weeks. You need to replace those panixkybthoughta with more calm ones which is easier said than done, which is why you need to ask for help and support.

We all love a new baby thread so we will all be especially looking forward to your good news when your two arrive.

I hop eyiu get help to make you feel more positive and calmer.

Hi there i am just woundering as a twin mum at 32 weeks jow did everyone cope with the last 4 weeks i say 4 weeks as i will be delivering by 36 due to the type of twins i have. How did people cope with the dreaded laat weeks and im home on my own most of the time everyday no family support so im going a bit crazy at gome as the girls dont loke change of scenery much and start kicking like mad if i do anything but lay in certain positions lol