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Poll what age would it be weird to walk around naked in front of your dc

59 replies

Litttlepinkegg · 21/03/2019 19:41

Me and Dh having a debate about this. He thinks I need to cover up when getting out the shower dd is 6 and ds 3. I think Dh is being weird who’s right?

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 22/03/2019 07:51

My 20 yo ds will come and chat to me when I’m in the bath. Although he wouldn’t be keen on the other way round.

runningtogetskinny · 22/03/2019 07:55

My 21 year old DD regularly chats to me while I'm in the shower or getting dried and dressed. Her need to share whatever it is she wants to tell me overrides any embarrassment - doesn't bother me in the slightest

Charley50 · 22/03/2019 08:11

I still had the odd bubble bath with DS till he was 8. We used the time to practise his times tables.Grin A colleague was horrified when I mentioned it to her. Blush
So that stopped as I felt she had a point, and since then he generally hasn't seen me naked, or me him. He knows all his times table though Grin

arseabouttit · 22/03/2019 08:59

11/ 12 ish? I would say it's whenever they begin to want more privacy for themselves and become more self conscious about their own nakedness to be honest. Although if they walk in whilst I'm getting dressed I'm still not going to leap for a towel, I just would not walk around the house starkers or go in their rooms - to be fair it's not a pretty sight. And we all have our own bathrooms so not a big issue in term of sharing a shower so that makes it less likely anyway.

My 7yo could not give a rats arse whether we are clothed or not - if he wants something he wants something and he will tell you all about it naked / half dressed / fully clothed!

SallyWD · 22/03/2019 09:05

I was thinking about this the other day. My DC are 8 and 6 and I often get dressed in front of them. I don't walk about naked but they see me get dressed (as they never give me a minutes peace!). I suddenly realised I didn't see my parents naked when I was young and wondered if it was wrong. It all feels fine and natural though. Think I'll def. cover up more when they're going through puberty.

Bluntness100 · 22/03/2019 09:05

I think gender has something to do with this if I'm honest.

My daughter is 21 and as much as I have always tried to maintain a sense of decency in front of her, ie I don't deliberately walk about naked, if she walks into the room and I'm naked I've no issue with it, although she will bellow "for God's sake you could have said" laughingly.

I am bemused at women who get naked in front of their teenage sons. I very much doubt they wish to see that, no matter how much they pretend, and I think there is a difference between body confidence and sensitivity/appropriateness.

DesparateDino · 22/03/2019 09:10

I have never paraded myself around my girls but don't hide myself away.

They sometimes come in if I am dressing and they come and chat to me in the bath, they are 17 and 12.

cloudymelonade · 22/03/2019 09:19

Still happily get changed with my DM at the gym/spa and I'm 25!

Funkaccino · 22/03/2019 09:41

When it is a problem for them.

I think it's a good idea for children to see naked adults in a non sexual setting before they are teens and exposed to a lot of un healthy messages about nudity.

Nesssie · 22/03/2019 10:29

27 and no problem with having a chat with my mum whilst one of us is in the bath. And Nan will have no problems wandering in too!
Walk around in my underwear quite a bit when I go to their home too, but my dad doesn't seem to mind/notice.

Might be different if there were more boys in the family, but with mum and 3 sisters, we tend to be very carefree!

Boopeedoop · 22/03/2019 10:32

My youngest is 18 and I still do it. Hubby wears pants though. (we have girls)

SuziQ10 · 22/03/2019 10:40

My mother (60) will happily strip off in front of me(29) after a shower or when getting dressed. I absolutely hate it and always have.

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 22/03/2019 10:51

For me, it was when Dd started tilting her head on one side & commenting when I was in the shower.

"I can see that you've put weight on Mummy"

"Don't you shave your armpits any more mummy?"

I don't need that shit at 6:30 in the morning.

AnnaMagnani · 22/03/2019 10:58

A time when they are teenagers and get embarrassed about it.

Then there comes a point when you are old and need help getting dressed and it's all naked again.

My DM is 78 and will wander in asking me to help her put her top over her head.

Hotterthanahotthing · 22/03/2019 11:00

My DD still comes into my room to chat when I'm naked she's the only person I would let do that now as my body isn't what it once was.
She doesn't like me seeing her with nothing on but will happily wander round in underwear and tolerated me when we're bra shopping.

StarlightLady · 22/03/2019 11:09

I am concerned here at the attitudes of a few who are sugesting there is anything wrong with a naked body. This “logic” causes problems.

Being naked and sexuality can be 2 totally different things.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 22/03/2019 11:15

When they’re bothered by it.

I have ten year olds and a 7 year old. They’re not bothered in the slightest.

NutElla5x · 22/03/2019 11:17

Your kids will let you know if/when it's time to cover up,don't you worry about that. Ignore husband.

CaptainSquirrel · 22/03/2019 11:21

Yep, stop when they tell you or otherwise let you know eg if they look uncomfortable or start to cover themselves up around you. That way they know you respect their boundaries. Until then, there's no issue.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 22/03/2019 11:26

I will be naked in front of my 5, 3 and 18 month old and will sometimes bathe with them but my 10 year old son hasn't seen me naked for about 3 years. If he walks in the room while I'm getting changed it's not a big deal but I make a conscious effort to cover up.
I think it will be different with my daughters and maybe it will be acceptable for longer with them as they are female.

PurpleThistles · 22/03/2019 11:27

I usually end up streaking from my room to downstairs to grab my forgotton dressing gown or underwear or whatever. Usually with an attempt to disguise my modesty. Kids are aged from 9 to 13 and dont care. If my youngest spots me, he usually just laughs at my 'fat bum'.

BlueAndYellowPurplePills · 22/03/2019 11:28

I’m 36 and my mum and I don’t are about seeing each other naked.
My dad ... I have a vague (deliberately

BlueAndYellowPurplePills · 22/03/2019 11:31

Deliberately vague memory of last seeing him naked at 16ish but think it was by accident as he didn’t think I was awake and he went for a wee late at night just as I was coming out of bathroom.
I’m not bothered by naked bodies on any one anymore. Nor am I mentally scarred by any of that part of my childhood

SilentSister · 22/03/2019 11:31

Never weird, at any age. As a child in the 60's/70's/80's we all walked around naked, parents, children, brothers and sisters. It gave me a healthy view of other bodies, what is normal, and what happens when you age. My parents were also quite old, and for that time, probably quite unusual in this attitude.

We are the same with our children. In fact, I think it is more important to be open and natural as they get older, to counteract the warped view of internet ideals.

Also no locks on any of our doors Shock

Hopelesscase28 · 22/03/2019 11:34

Ds is 9 and I’ve felt weird about it the last three or so years. Definitely weird now. I prefer not to see him as well!