Visitation after death - any legal experts out there?

[Viscousmilkshake]

Just looking for some advice. Scenario:

Married to husband, have a young child age 3. Both husband and I are no contact with husbands family, big family fall out a few years ago. Husbands parents are on all sorts of medication to include antidepressants, Valium, antipsychotics, they are just not stable and are constantly sending threats through social media. They are in an unhealthy relationship together and are just spiralling downwards.

Husband is no contact now but I've always wondered what would happen if something happened to me? He is adamant that he would never let our child have a relationship with these people but could I put a will or some sort of legal document in place to stop these people coming into my child's life if anything happened to me? He is willing to sign something also.

Also. Say your family does try to enforce a pointless order that they would lose. He then withdraws contact, moves etc. And he would be right in doing so. Because the stress both emotional and financial that they would've forced upon him would surely negatively affect the children.

You should both already have wills. It's irresponsible not to when you have a child.

You can nominate one or more guardian/s in your will and you can also state that you do not want certain people to be guardians or have any contact with your child. You don't have to go into the reasons; you should do that separately in a letter of wishes.

A will writer who is often recommended on here and can give sensitive advice on this topic is a mumsnetter (mumblechum) and her website is www.marlowwills.co.uk. She wrote wills for DH and I and we were very happy with her service.