Anyone else in the same predicament? DH and I are both 30, I know in a few years wedding attendance will have probably died down. Its a temporary issue but here we are...
DH and I have been invited / received save the dates for 10 weddings between now and 2021. All of which are from very close friends or family who attended (with their husband/wife to be) our own wedding 4 years ago. We love weddings, we love all of these people. Its the cost (monetary and annual leave from work) to physically be there that's going to be the hard part. 6 of them are outside the UK (in a European country), 1 in the USA, 1 in Australia.
DH is best man for one (USA) and I'm a bridesmaid for 3 (Europe, non-UK). How do we begin to 'prioritise' when amongst the invites are siblings and our best friends? Can't bring ourselves to say 'this couple sent us their wedding details first' as, for example, the summer 2020 couple gave over 2 years notice, we of course said yes as at that time none of the others were even engaged! Since April 2018 when they first invited us until this morning we've received 9 other invites!
I know what we need to do, price up all of them and start being realistic. Including all the hens and stags that go with each. In the confines of Mumsnet I don't want to have to choose, I want to go to all. We were the first couple to get married in our group, had a large wedding in Kos (we live in England). I hate the idea of others saying they made an effort for ours but we aren't for theirs. I'm probably being dramatic, real friends wouldn't actually say this...its just there's nobody within the group I can say is less of a friend than others, plus there's no way DH or I could not be at our siblings weddings. Maybe we'll have to think about only one of us going to a few of them.