When my dear BF forgot my birthday

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My boyfriend claimed he forgot my birthday and didn’t make up for it. He’s refusing to talk about it.

Men seem to be prone to this, more than women. The men in my life have always needed prompting about things like birthdays and anniversaries. Did you mention that it was your birthday coming up ? Having been disappointed a few times over the years, I've got into the habit of saying ( about a week before the day ) "Oh, since it's my birthday next Thursday, I was thinking maybe we could go to XYZ restaurant for dinner " or whatever. That way they have no excuse for forgetting, and you get remembered. I know they shouldn't need prompting, but it's better than being disappointed.

Regarding the day that just happened - I'd send some flowers to myself , with a note saying " Happy Birthday from an admirer" , just to rub in his mistake.

I've never been with a partner who's forgotten my birthday. What was his excuse? How long have you been together?

Pretty unforgivable in my book, but DH really struggle with calendars - otherwise completely competent... forgot our wedding anniversary last year. I tend to remind him in advance of important things.

I forgot my other half’s birthday last year. After complaining he’d not gotten me a card for mine. At least he hadn’t forgotten 🙈

Difference is, we had a chat about it, a laugh, I made it up to him. Yours sounds like a sulky child

Some adults don't bother with birthdays so if he doesn't then fair enough if he previously told you he doesn't celebrate them.

If he does though and forgot yours that is OK too if he then made up for it.

However he appears to be annoyed with you about it which is odd.

He sounds very immature.