If a wife leaves a husband because of dv will the ex dh still have access to the dc ?

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Just watching something on Netflix that is among me thjnk about this

Unfortunately very likely....

Yes, if he takes it to court, in most situations, contact is promoted. It could be in a variety of ways however.

I wonder if new coercive control laws will change this.
In Scotland there has been a bit of campaigning around it recently.

It seems strange as you do often hear on here etc Ltb
Don’t put your kids in that situation
Yet if you do leave they will end up with the dad alone

Probably. My friend left an abusive dh.
So far the kids dont see him but he has taken this to court to try and get access.
He is still being abusive and controlling.

It seems strange as you do often hear on here etc Ltb
Don’t put your kids in that situation
Yet if you do leave they will end up with the dad alone

This is exactly what I thought.

Living in a situation of domestic abuse really affects children.
It's better for them to have a main home environment where that isn't happening.
They find it upsetting to see their mum being abused, generally.

Yes Super , without a shadow of a doubt. Yet abusive men are regularly granted access to their children, children who know the father to be abusive, and who has subjected the children to abuse by abusing their mother. There is something so wrong about this, a complete failure to recognise the dynamics of abuse as affecting the whole family, all the time, as opposed to isolated incidents. In my professional role, I know of children who see their dad at a contact centre for an hour a fortnight. They spend their whole time dreading it. Others just don't want the weekend to come, despite planned cinema trips and meals out, because it'll be in the company of a known abuser. Wrong, wrong, wrong.

Yes. It sometimes depends if you can prove it. Even then access is still sometimes given.

My exh raped me. I didn't go to the police. When i wanted to the legal advice I recieved was that he could say I was making it up to stop him seeing the kids and use it to prove parental alienation.

So he got away with it and had the kids 50:50. In a very short space of time the kids opted to stay with me more and more, because they dont like his girlfriend or kids. They all live together and moved in 12 weeks after meeting.

He still threatens to take me to court for parental alienation. But he wint spend the money and as the kids are older, it's their choice.

I have never talked shit about him to the kids. Ever. So he cant prove alienation at all. They just prefer being here with me.

Yes that’s why I stay and make the best of things - the children are safer plus he doesn’t get granted time to take them to his home country and never bring them back.

Yes. My experience is very similar to FrenchMontana.

Mrs Pear and everyone else who struggles on this road.

I left my abusive ex partner and subsequently found myself in a women's refuge for an amount of time. During this time he was still allowed supervised access at the local contact centre with DS who was 2 at the time, I demamnded supervised access as I didn't deem him able to look after him on his own, this went on for a number of weeks until he rang threatening my life completely off his face on cocaine.
I pushed for a psychological evaluation, alcohol and drug testing which he refused so he doesn't get to see DS anymore.

A family friend of mil's discovered her dd had been abused by her dh. He went to prison. When he came out he got access to the other dc....

Easterbunny . That's horrifying. I'm currently supporting a friend through similar but no charges have been pressed yet. It is so difficult to prove.

Yes. My experience is very similar to @FrenchMontana. I was forced to do 50/50 shared care with my abuser and pre school age children. I was forced to stop breast feeding my youngest.

This is a disgusting state of affairs

What's the programme called?