Hiding in the spare room...please help.

[Lastdaysof2018]

Parents and Aunt are visiting overnight. They CANNOT get enough of my husband who puts on this holy ‘Mary Mother of God’ show when they come to town. I do all the leg work and he ‘dishes up’. Obviously everything the kid does is down to him.

Does this happen to you?
It’s like Daddy Pig has entered the house. And we all know what a knob he can be.

Why are you hiding? Have you been drinking?

Why don't you make it known you did the work?
"Oh I am glad you enjoyed that DP. Took me ages to cook".

I'd go down and act like a total lazy pig ordering DH around.

Why would you think the OP had been drinking? I took as she couldn’t bare to be around it all

Did you have it out with him the last time it happened?

Stand up for yourself. Just relax and enjoy doing nothing.

I don’t understand why/ who you are hiding from though? Your husband or visiting relatives and why?

I know what you mean. It's cringey.

Not drinking. I wish I was.

They know I do the cooking.
I hid at Christmas time because Aunt mentioned what a ‘brilliant job husband did of herbing the meat’. Husband had ‘herbed’ the meat.

BlueMerchant- I’m liking your train of thought. Can you be more specific?

Go downstairs. Feet up. Order Daddy Pig to get you a packet of biscuits and a glass of wine. Put Netflix on very loud. Ask what time Parents and Aunt are leaving tomorrow and suggest an hour earlier than they say. Sit there sniffing pretending there's a funny smell just to make them uncomfortable and order DH to find the cause then pretend you saw someone lurking outside and order him to investigate- locking the door after him.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Grow up. Behave like an adult. Go down and be gracious. What you are really saying by hiding like this is 'look at me'.

Saucer of milk required for sour-pusspuss9.

Didn't mean to be sour. I just think it's the best approach. Hiding in the bedroom will have them all noticing and asking 'where is Lastdays? Is she OK' What's wrong ?' They will send OH to see and you'll get your opportunity to say 'They praised you and not me' , so honestly, is it worth it? You would look so insecure. So what if they don't praise you - you know you did it and that's what matters isn't it?

They were absolutely fine without me. They enjoyed the individual attention with husband (expert Daddy Pig) and the love fest continued. I enjoyed my self exhiled time-out and self indulged moan to MN. All better now. Husband got some nice wet kisses and special invite with kid to Mum’s dance show. Better removing yourself for a breather, rather than losing the rag?

My MIL does this every bloody time. DH couldn't put a pot of water on to boil of his life depended on it, and she knows it too. But when she is over he will be up before a cockerel can put in his drawers and make an original bean ground coffee with a heated cup for her and then have a chat with her while I'm scurrying the kids about hurrying them along. Then she's always like "DH works soooo hard","he shouldn't have to bathe the kids", "I need to iron his shirts". I mentally imagine her being crushed by the biggest books on feminism in my bookshelf, and realise that it would be a waste of a good set of books.

I really do not understand women who think that a man who can do just a tad more than lifting his teaspoon to stir his tea is somehow wonderful. And it can't be simply a generational thing. My late MIL, who would be nearly 100 now, would have had words to say if either of her sons, now in their 70s, ever shirked their share of domestic tasks.

I do like the imagery from your post, TeaAddict, I do sometimes think that, yes, dumping a load of feminist books on women like that would be a waste. But I really do not understand their mindset.

Teaaddict235- Proper laughing at the ‘heated cup’. Sums it up perfectly.

Kooshbin- Your MIL sounds great.

I think all of this has something to do with Mum and Aunt secretly fancying him and husband lapping it up.