My 'D'F refuses to call my daughter by her name. Her name is a classic name, in a similar vein to Elspeth, it's a beautiful name and I obviously love it. My parents are from overseas and had four children, each of us have Western names. My DF calls my daughter by a name from his country that he's chosen. I have never been to his home country and I don't speak the language. My siblings and I all married white partners and I wondered if this has something to do with it, as his way of trying to enforce his culture on us, but it is only my daughter who is singled out for this. I think he also knows that I am the sibling that this is most likely to irritate and enjoys annoying me.
Just a bit of background, my parents had a horrible marriage and we were, for a short time, removed from their care. The police were called to our home growing up and there were serious crimes committed but not against us. They sort of project an air of respectability now so people wouldn't believe the crimes they were guilty of and have quite high flying jobs in the NHS. We were raised by an aunt who was only slightly older than me and survived on benefits despite my parents owning many, many London homes. I only tolerate seeing my parents because of my youngest sibling and a stupid sense of guilt. I don't have a relationship with my DF but he tries to force one. He invents memories that didn't happen and I just politely smile like an idiot. I try not to pick up the phone when he calls so he texts and asks how my daughter is using that name.
If you've managed to stay with me that long, thank you. My question is how would you address this? I really just want to tell him to fuck off with his stupid name but can't. It's getting quite tiring. My beautiful DD turns one in April and it's coming up to a year of this name rubbish and I'm starting to get really angry. I'll have to see him at her birthday party and I'm worried I'm going to explode in front of my lovely inlaws who will then think I'm crazy.